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From my end of the world, it is often said that destiny can be delayed but can never be denied. Again, we also say that God's time is the best and that the ways of God are never the ways of man. We have the late bloomers who starts accomplising their heart desires later in life and we have the early bloomers who starts pretty early at a very young age. Regardless of our age my mom would always say that as long as there is life, there's hope.
Personally, I am not where I want to be in life but I know that I will get there and the fact that I am an adult and responsible for myself, it's enough consolation that I am doing well for my age.
You see, some time ago, my aunt called. Initially, I had thought that she wanted to speak with my mom as my mom rarely takes her phone calls and oftentimes, people get to reach her through me. Thus, after exchanging pleasantries, I inquired from my aunt if she had wanted to speak with my mom.
Surprisingly, she said it was me she wanted to speak with and not my mom. She also went further to inform me that she called to have a few words with me. It was indeed a shocker because my aunt has never called me on a personal level before.
She started to state her concerns and the first thing she mentioned was my marital status. In her words, she doesn't want me to be desperate or go into depression because she knows that by this stage of my life, most of my friends would be married and some would be with children in their matrimonial home.
For a while there, I really did wonder where the whole marriage talk was coming from because despite being in my late 20's, I have never for once felt pressured to be married. Again, none of my family members have also made me feel worthless in their gatherings. So why is my aunt telling me all this? I wondered because I couldn't quite get it.
Regardless, I listened to her with wrapped attention and picked whatever lessons that I knew I would need. Trust me guys, my aunt's words were fire. She used herself as an example. According to her, if someone had told her that she would be abroad someday living in luxury with her husband she'll laugh like Sarah laughed when the Angels told her that she would be a mother at old age.
In no time, my aunt walked me through the darkest moments of her life, some of which I was a part of as a child who frequents her home for the holidays. She reminded me of the times when she rarely got good clothes to wear and how she was always settling for handouts and depending on her younger siblings for financial aid.
Still in her words, whenever she sees her mates who are married with children, she dodges because she feels embarrassed being in her situation. And although she felt embarrassed, she was not helpless as I saw my aunt strive with her small scale fashion business.
Well, eventually luck smiled on her in the most unexpected of ways because while she was managing her life, an unexpected stranger living in the neighborhood approached her. The stranger indicated interest that she would love my aunt to marry her widower brother who resides abroad with his teenage children.
I was quite young then and also pretty curious while growing up so I eavesdropped when my aunt brought the news to my mom, her elder sister. My mother had her reservations but she supported my aunt wholeheartedly.
You know, for someone who had experienced two failed marriages and had no child in the past, I'd say that my aunty is the true definition of resilience given the African girl culture on marriage, separation and motherhood.
It's no news that when it comes to marriage and motherhood, women are mostly faulted and tagged failures when they can't sustain or achieve both “M’s”. And yes! My aunt did say to me that at a point she felt cursed and this made her cling to God. According to her she didn't know how her life would be better but she trusted the process and knew that God would make everything right.
Well, God did compensate her alright because she went from someone who was squatting with her younger sister years back, to a landlady of three mansions in some of the choicest places in Nigeria.
I am super excited that she did not give up because how would she have motivated me with the wonders of life?
I'd like to conclude this write up with, no you are not cursed and no you are not unfortunate, it's just not your time yet.
This post also serves as an entry to the inleo prompt day 25. See here for details
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