Omo… finding happiness these days is not as easy as it used to be. If you’re someone whose happiness lies in money and things that could easily be bought, you would have been in trouble a long time ago because currently, life is tough. Things are at an all-time tough and we don’t even know how or when we’ll return to a semblance of what it used to be.
Happiness is always a personal decision, because as long as you choose not to be happy, then you can never be happy. That’s the simple truth. The world is also unfair in a way because while there are so many things that can easily make you sad in the world, happiness has to be your choice. You can be in a happy place, but you’ll still be enveloped in sadness.
And just like everyone else, I’ve also had my moments. I’ve felt down or sad and the only escape I could think of was just to return to my happy self. I’m not a fan of wallowing in sadness or other negative feelings. When it comes, I feel it for a limited time, and then I move on. If I find out that I can’t move on from the feelings as quickly as I would want, I’ll simply detach myself from everything that has to do with what is causing those sad feelings.
So, how do I get rid of these feelings, because one thing I don’t do is to let it take over my mind. I don’t really enjoy thinking bad thoughts simply because they don’t make me feel good. Also, it only gets worse the more you think about them, which is why I try my best to keep it to the minimum so I can move on with my life.
For me, one surefire way to find happiness is writing. I’ve found that writing out my feelings can be therapeutic in a way. If I’m sad about something, or if I’m mad at someone and I see that it’s eating me up. Instead of bottling it all inside, I simply take out a pen and begin to write. I pour out all the vileness and bitterness I’m feeling into the paper. I won’t stop writing until I’m tired and I can’t hold my pen anymore. Most of the time, I go to bed. When I wake up, I usually have a clearer mind to know what to do or to feel better if there’s nothing to be done.
When I’m writing these things, I don’t skimp on them. I don’t try to keep it family-friendly because I know it’s for my eyes only. So, if it’s insults, bitterness, or whatever it is that I have inside me, I’ll simply write it there. Then, when it’s all over, I’ll tear it up into shreds and flush it down the toilet so it’s never seen again.
That always works for me, especially when I’m having feelings I’m not proud of. Like unnecessary anger, jealousy, envy, and the like. We’re all humans and every once in a while, we find ourselves falling short of our own expectations. But the real test is always about how we get to handle it because that can make all the difference in the world.
Another thing I do to get my mind off these things is watching movies or reading books. I’m sure you already guessed this. I usually prefer novels or action movies. I would watch the movie at high volume, blasting gunshots and explosions through the speakers. It always helps to clear my mind because one thing I can’t ever do is not focus on a movie. If I know that I won’t concentrate on the movie, then I won’t even bother to play it. So, concentration helps get my mind off whatever is making me sad.
Now, I know that none of these tips help to actually eliminate whatever it is that’s making you sad. But then, they always give me a fresh mind, so that I know better how to tackle whatever it is. And I always end up coming out on top. They’ve always worked for me, and they’ll continue to work because it’s a tried and proven method.
You can try them out someday.
