Red Flags in a Relationship

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A relationship is sweet when you are with the right person, but being in a relationship with someone playing with you hurts a lot and it is better to be single than to find yourself in such a situation.

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No one is perfect, and this is why we need to ignore some of our partner's flaws but there are some things we must never ignore no matter how much we love the person because, in the end, those things will end up separating us.

Check out the list of red flags I won't tolerate from my partner.

Having many opposite gender as Friends

There is no way I would trust my partner if she has many friends who are guys because there is a possibility she could develop feelings for any of them at any time, there is no relationship without its problem, partners do fight, Imagine having a dispute with my bae and she went to find solace in one of her male friends, Ladies are emotional being and she could lose herself to temptation... Trusting a lady with many guy friends is giving her a chance to make you a fool because it would be difficult to catch her red-handed as she could easily tell you the guy you saw her with is her friend.

I don't like my partner keeping friends talkless of guy friend because I am a jealous lover, moreover, I don't want a situation where friends are the ones controlling my relationship which is what is happening in the relationship world nowadays, especially the ladies friendship.... they would advise her to do things they can't or won't do to their own partner, bad advice ...

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Phone Privacy

Some people are professionals when it comes to gas lighting, you will hear statements like why are you invading my privacy, you do not have the right to check my phone, don't you have your own my guy don't fall for this, a lady that does not have a cockroach in her cupboard won't try to hide her phone from you.

I am not the kind that loves to check his partner's phone, I have my partner's password and my face can even open her phone but you won't see me picking up her phone to check her messages or anything else because the fact she gave me her password and I also have access to the phone means there is nothing to hide, but if my partner is doing everything possible to keep me away from her phone, I need to soothsayer to tell me there is fire on the roof and I need to do something about it asap!

You keeping it from me would even increase my curiosity to find out what exactly you have on that phone.

Body Count

Many men desire to be in a relationship with a virgin but it is not part of my criteria for choosing a partner, it is okay not to be a virgin, and don't lie about it... Body count matters to me though, I can't be in a relationship with a lady with many body counts, why will you have many body counts, is it that your character is bad that is making all the guys leave you, or Ashewo dey your eyes which is making you jump from one man to the other...

Some ladies would ask people not to judge them by their past but the past really matters, you can't expect an innocent guy to make you his partner when you spend your youth running after many boys...

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Finding solace in a male friend is a red flag, her friends shouldn't be too much of male, i agree, so that the situation if something like that might ever come up, don't get too worst.

big red flag, never tolerating that

The body count part dey crack me up😅😅😅😅
Why u con dey vex type for that part😅😅😅
Normally, it isn’t nice for a lady to have too many body counts aside from the fact that life dey do some people

i no vex, just stating the fact lol

And yea ladies with high body count usually have problem in their relationship and it is not some girls fault sha, it is just unfortunate they keep meeting pharaoh sons

I can’t date a man who has too many female friends as well
It’s a big turn off for me

yea, something will definitely be going on between him and one of the so called friends

I am not in a relationship but I don't know why most of lovers feel jealous to see their partners with other opposite genders. Maybe it's normal as a maximum of us feel the same.
In the case of privacy, I think no one should share their password with anyone and it proves nothing about trust. I am against sharing passwords and I may break up if my future partner asks for it. I hate someone interface in my privacy and if she asks for it, it means she doesn't trust me also. And secondly sharing passwords proves nothing because having multiple accounts is a very natural thing. I have seen tons of examples of it.

uhm you may not understand the idea behind having your partner password and them having your own too until you are in a relationship with someone you love...

having multiple ACC on the same phone will still expose them if they are doing something shady

uhm you may not understand the idea behind having your partner password and them having your own too until you are in a relationship with someone you love...

Hehe. Then you need to find a girlfriend for me😅 otherwise I need to wait for a long time at least some years to understand it.

having multiple ACC on the same phone will still expose them if they are doing something shady

Hehe. now cheaters are also smart and don't leave any clue but still, sometimes they make some silly mistakes and get caught barehanded.

True! I do not like it a bit when I find out my partner has a lot of female friends. Ah? One person? We pass here, all the women know you and you know them too…you guys are even close….? I don’t understand when people say “oh my partner can have a best friend”. It’s really funny to me.

Its sometimes lack of maturity that causes jealousy. But its also playing safe, because men can sometimes be funny. Some don’t even mind dating two friends without both knowing. Life is full stories of all kinds.

Nice share @burlarj . Greetings 😇