Sustaining Your Happiness
Wanting to be away from people is a normal thing, we all have moments like that in our lives, especially when we are faced with challenges that seem to be beyond us.
The truth is, It's not always that the presence of people makes things better for us. I know they say "A problem shared is a problem half solved," but some days being away from everyone else solves the problem.
Many people mistake me for a loner because of how much I desire to be alone especially when I am facing a challenge, some even call it pride but honestly, I don't see it that way.
Most of the time when I am away from people, I get myself back together. But that is me. We are wired differently, for some people, staying away from their loved ones when faced with challenges causes them more harm.
It is during those moments that some people get out of course and begin a kind of life that isn't healthy for them, pain is a terrible thing, it can make anyone do crazy things. It is a period like that that made many drunkards, smokers, sadists, and depressed.
We are most vulnerable and malleable when we are alone and faced with challenges, at that moment, we can become anything and can make silly decisions. The most powerful moments of our lives are when we are alone. It can either make or destroy us.
Sometimes when we are troubled we have that urge to cut away from everyone around us, it happens to me a lot, I don't know about you but I feel it's normal, as humans have emotions sometimes we need to go away from everyone to cool down.
I don't know about you but for me, when someone is troubled and wants to be alone, I advise we let them have some time for themselves. Attacking fire with fire sometimes ends up making things more complicated.
Whenever I get hurt and I start feeling the need to stay away from people, what I do is stay away from people. You may say isn't that bad? What if you get depressed or harm yourself? Well, your worries are valid but to be frank, I'll still stay away but not for long, at least for a moment that it will take me to cool off enough to be able to open up to someone.
Sometimes, if we don't stay away we might end up transferring the aggression to others around us. Some people can actually control themselves but others can't. So for your good and your loved ones, take some time, retire, and put yourself together. Then share it later with someone if you can't find solutions so that you don't remain unhappy.
This is why I love the kind of relationship I have with my mother. When she sees me always locking myself in the room and avoiding conversations, she gives me some space, when she notice I am calm and leaves my door open, she comes by and tries to know what's wrong. A lot of times, before she comes to inquire what's wrong, I have already gotten myself back.
Well, that is for me, you know yourself better, if you know that when you stay away from people when you are troubled, you do harm to yourself, then I'll advise you to do your best to open up to someone you trust, you will find solace.
Some people find happiness and relief when they are alone no matter the situation hunting them. Maybe a few music, motivational quotes or videos, or some moments studying a book, some even social media can make them happy again.
But for others it isn't so, staying away from people means going into more problems and away from happiness, if you fall into that category, try your best to get someone you can rely on, then share your problems with them whenever you are faced with such moments, it will be of help.
