It might sound surprising, but I’ve never actually been on a real date before. For the longest time, it wasn’t because I didn’t have the opportunity—it was more about my mindset. Looking back, I realize that my mentality has played a huge role in why I’ve avoided dates. Over the years, I’ve exchanged numbers with a lot of girls, and we’ve even met in restaurants or public places, but the problem was always from my perception of money and relationships.
I used to think that most girls were only interested in money, and because of that, I felt I shouldn’t spend anything on them during the first date or meeting as they might fall in love with that and not me. This belief, ended up creating barriers between me and those girls.
I remember one particular girl who was absolutely stunning with big bunda. We met at a school event, and everything seemed to click. She was giving me good vibes, and I felt like we were connecting on a deeper level. At some point, she suggested we go into the restaurant to meet emher friends, but I disagreed. I insisted we sit outside on some metal chairs instead. I actually got the point that she probably wanted me to buy her something or at least join her for dinner, but I was stubborn. I didn’t want to spend any money on her, even though I was starting to like her and had even considered asking her out.
Looking back now, I realize that my refusal to do something so simple as buying her a meal sent the wrong message. After that day, she stopped replying to my messages and to be honest, I don’t even blame her. I came off as stingy and uninterested, even though that wasn’t my true intention.
Over time, I’ve come to realize that money, while not the only thing that matters, is important in relationships. It’s not about buying someone’s affection, but rather being willing to invest in experiences together. If I do find someone who truly cares about me, I’d want to make our first date very special.
I imagine taking her on a yacht, where we’d have good food, drinks, and treats while surrounded by the beauty of nature. We’d have a perfect view of the water, and it would be peaceful, just the two of us enjoying each other’s company without distractions. I’ve been dreaming of this type of experience for a very long time—something meaningful, memorable, and intimate. It’s not just about the money; it’s about creating a moment we can both cherish.
I realize now that relationships are about balance. It’s important to be generous with your time, your energy, and yes, sometimes your wallet. I’ve learned from my past mistakes, and I’m hopeful that when I finally do go on that first real date, it will be with someone I truly love and care about, and the experience will be worth every bit of effort and expense.
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