It is recommended always to have a productive friend circle because you grow by the company you keep. If friends are always hungry to do something good then it will influence you too, if they are prone to destruction then you are sure to go down as well no matter how much preparation you take.
Fortunately or I may say, unfortunately, I have a mixture of friends, some doing good, some excellent, and some lagging behind miserably. Everyone won't be good in the group, will they? Thats normal. But there are some who are really really self-centered in a harmless way. I mean, they will climb the ladder secretly but won't harm you while doing so nor call you to climb with them, even if you ask they will just ignore that.
Two or three years ago perhaps, one of my friends started working on one of his plans for the future. He took some steps that were no-brainer in bare eyes, so I repeatedly tried to make him understand but he had other plans in disguise that he didn't disclose. Well, he wasn't even sure if he would be a success or not, that's why perhaps but he could have shared that with me as we were really close. Oftentimes, he is with me, I get a glimpse of what he is up to, ask and he replies and never really breaks down the whole thing. In 2024, he finally made that possible, I am really happy and wish the very best for him. Coming back to him after the next paragraph….
The second incident is about another friend who is a very productive-minded guy but is stuck in a very unproductive group. In a meetup, we talked over various things and there he openly gave some advice for me. Before everyone, he disclosed what he was up to and how the others may also attempt to get some benefits, just the similar goal that I told you in the previous paragraph. For this one, I will have to wait one or two more years for my graduation to be complete but I need to start working from now on. He really gave some valuable insights and things to start considering from now on that will help in the long run.
So, the advice from the second friend could have been coming from the first one almost three to four years ago that I am planning like this, will be attempting this, this, and that. We were so close that even I could have attempted the same with him back then. This one little difference in people's nature suddenly bugged me. It's just a side-by-side comparison of the people around us. No one harmed me, but things could have been better. The fear of messing things up or the mindset of eating alone is what makes us selfish from being a self-centered person. I have always been a person who loves to walk ahead with the surroundings, if things have the chance of getting bad then a spoiler is a must for me with the caution of doing enough research not just relying on myself.
Well, I am not regretting anything, things could have been worse as well for me. It's just about a realization of people's mindset and their differences. You won't get something even after asking and there will also be some who are offering that to you on their own. So, cherish people with care…
Wes & Grindan