A Personal Tweak

in #hive-1106023 days ago

Self discovery is a never ending process. Everyday, we discover bits and pieces of who we are, both good and bad. As humans, none of us is perfect and that’s totally fine. But, the bad part would be we not being willing to better ourselves with every passing opportunity.

Human beings they say are social butterflies.You may never know your weaknesses and that’s why it’s very important to have people around you. These people serve the purpose of helping you identify your strengths and weaknesses in a way and working on them as well. Regardless, most of the work relies on you the individual as every action you take affects you.

I’ve known myself to be a very outgoing person on most days. And there are days I can be very introverted. To add to these, the part of me that amazes me the most is how observant I am and I only came to realise this a while back. With this, it has to do more with me listening and watching a lot. Growing up, I’ve known myself to pay very keen attention to little details and I believe that’s what makes me stand out.

My ability to observe things has increased drastically over the last few months and this has made me see meaning to many things. I’m someone with a very kind heart. I love to help people in any way I can, whether it’s to make a joke which would make their day, talk to them, offer financial help , you just name it. But, we all these ways I try to extend a helping hand to others to make the world a better place, people tend to try to cross the line.

I understand that someone’s actions shouldn’t prevent you from doing good or being who you are.
That’s very accurate but sometimes, we should learn to know where to draw the line. I’ve come to learn that, not everyone deserves that warmth from you. Some people deserve that straight face because once you smile with them, they tend to take things too far. I’ve had experiences with people which have been pretty awful.

Just yesterday, a colleague of mine made an outburst which made me very furious. This got me asking myself if people really take time to process their words and actions before even executing them. Bear in mind that this outburst wasn’t directed to me, but rather to another person. However ,in a way, I didn’t just feel right about it and if it were to be me, I really wouldn’t have taken it lightly. On another level, I made a mental note to remember this outburst in all my dealings with this person.

If there’s one thing I would like to or wish to change about myself, it would most definitely be how nice I am to some people.You might be surprised, but it’s for a good reason. Even though I’m not too nice to everyone, people might just read too much into you just being civil with them and start to misbehave. With my patience level these days, I really don’t think I can stand some of these things and that’s why I wish to make this change to my personality.


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Yeah. Being free and all can get you the shorter end of the stick. Sadly. Boundaries are always necessary to prevent that happening

Right!

All very good stuff!! I mean you learning and maturing with insights, your alwz full of them,. That’s why I read ur posts. That said… I picture what you say so well…

Drawing lines… there are many sentences in your write up that pop up… its you for instance who are most influencien on yourself because of the actions you take, even if your friends correct you, its upto you.
But I would add… just keep people who are worthy of your helpful nature near you and avoid the others…
Because your wasting your energy, time doing something on someone who does not deserve. Deserving people keep them in your sircle.

I think your life would be better.
I am sure its great we just comment and read stuff here because I would be someone you would avoid, because I am toxic. I live in toxicity. But even then in my birthday some people who don’t believe I am toxic and like me messaged and wished me on my birthday recently. I was very touched. After you turn 40, you are ready to be completely isolated, but it will take time when there are some people who want to atleast keep some association with you.
That said, good introspection. You need to have the nag to only be nice, or helpful to people who won’t exploit you, go ahead!

You’re right. Not everyone needs your help and energy.

I believe even the most toxic person on earth can work on themselves. Sometimes, toxicity is just a state of mind. Once you make up your mind to do better, you’re already a step towards not being toxic.

To every toxic person, there’s some iota of beauty and kindness. Sending love and light❤️

I am so touched... thank you... yup I am not always toxic. People are generally safe because they avoid me and I avoid them. If we do get involved, it may bite them just a little, I mean no harm to anyone. And love always cleanses toxins because it tickles the good to come over you. There is always hope, or so I feel when people give love. I take it because whats given should be taken. Very generous hearts!

I always say the good qualities the other person has... its a good way to communicate. I also avoid people, I feel I can't be open to communicate the good I want to communicate openly...