The best way to Handle Teenage Pregnancy

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I didn't realize I was attending to last week's prompt until after writing and editing this post, so I decided to still share either way, so it won't be a complete waste of time. I hope you enjoy reading.


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The teenage years are the most delicate years when it comes to growing up, that is my own opinion, by the way, but the way teenagers are very eager to explore makes one understand that this is the stage where extreme care and attention needs to be paid to those kids.
Things are different these days, and this also includes the style of parenting; the beatings we used to receive in our days cannot be compared to anything experienced these days. You cannot beat a child that hard and not get sued or at least get condemned for the act.

I remember how excited I was approaching the age of eighteen. I said to myself that I would now have the total freedom to do whatever I wanted without being controlled by my parents, but I was wrong once again, because a day after my eighteenth birthday, I still got some good beating that lingered in my memory for the longest.

About the question attached to the prompt for this week, I feel one would need to be in the situation specifically before knowing how to react. You know sometimes you feel you know how you would react to a particular situation until it actually happens to you.
I understand that teenage pregnancy can be really embarrassing to the family, but the shame comes more for the girl in question (if you ask me); she would be taunted by her peers, laughed at, and used as a negative role model by neighboring parents. Teenage pregnancy comes with a lot of embarrassment for the young lady involved already, so in my opinion, love from family members wouldn't be a bad idea.


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However, the child needs to be told that this is wrong, but I am not in support of throwing a young girl out of the home simply because she got pregnant; she should be punished, scolded, and other things that would make her realize what she has done is bad, but let it be known that she is loved and accepted by you all the time.

I heard a story of a family friend whose teenage daughter got pregnant, and the parents decided to go hide her with an old woman in the village. This is because they were afraid of their reputation at church and in the community too. This young girl was there until the child was born, and she left the baby with the old woman while she continued school.

Her parents gave no room for mother's and child bonding as they immediately asked her to return back to the city, leaving the child behind and sending money for feeding to the old woman. Aside from the point of birth, I don't think the little teenage girl would be able to identify her child again.

This story is a true life story, and for me it is very deep because I wonder how the abandoned child is going to feel hearing this story a few years from now. While I understand that the grandparents were trying to save their face from the shame they feel, I also think that a long-term consequence should have been considered.
Teenage pregnancy is always not easy for the teenager and child, but in handling such a situation, attention needs to also be placed on the mental health of the teenage child, the child to be born, and that in a situation like this one, family is all we've got.



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