Often times we're used to reacting to stuff based off of our point of view, when in reality it could be a completely different issue, all we have to do is take a minute and ask questions.
A while back, I wrote about someone getting arrested at my hostel and when I first heard the news, I remember how furious I got and the plans I was already putting in place to ensure that never happened again, because arresting someone, especially in a time like this is something I consider to be too extreme.
But then when I eventually heard the whole story of what transpired that led to that lady getting arrested, I found myself no longer angry but being a bit sympathetic towards the guy who had gone ahead to arrest the lady because it became obvious to me that he was pushed to the wall and had to do what he had to do to get what belonged to him.
Something similar happened to me earlier today, although it was nothing compared to the police situation, but I had texted a really close friend of mine around 2am and of course I wasn't expecting them to reply by that time because they obviously were asleep, and when I woke up this morning, I also didn't care that they hadn't responded because they could still be in bed or be having a busy morning.
But when I sent them another text that had nothing to do with the first text and they had responded to that second text, I had gotten upset because now I was thinking that they had ignored the first text on purpose, especially seeing how it already says that the text had been seen by the receiver.
Feeling some kinda way, I had immediately told them how I felt about them not responding to my first text because it was a very important text. After I was done ranting, the person on the other end had apologised and then went ahead to tell me about how terrible of a day they were having.
Them explaining everything to me completely changed the entire situation and I found myself regretting that I hadn't taken that time to ask them why they hadn't responded in the first place, rather than just go ahead to rant...I felt like a douchebag because I probably was one.
Now the entire situation went from me being upset, to me apologising and trying to find a way to make them feel better. It was a shitty feeling that I absolutely hate, so if you don't wanna be in my shoes in the nearest future, always make sure to take that minute to at least give the other person a chance to explain..because they have a life too and you never know what's happening in it until you ask.