When revealing the truth becomes the greater harm

in #hive-1538503 months ago

I know most of us don't like it when people lie to us, but there are times we just have to lie to keep everything normal and to make peace reign.

Some truths are better kept hidden than revealed because they could destroy people's lives and homes, so why not lie for people's lives to be intact?

I don't like lies as well because I always feel cheated when someone lies to me, but I will definitely appreciate it if I am lied to when it comes to saving my life and my family.

I have told some lies to save people's homes and for the sake of peace because I know if I revealed the truth about what was going to happen, I would definitely blame myself for it, so I just had to lie and keep the truth to myself until I am ready to let it out. As you all know, ladies gossip in the salon, and I have heard more than a lot about people's personal lives that I can't reveal even if I was asked.


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It happened last year when my elder sister suspected her husband of cheating, but she didn't have concrete evidence to prove that he was actually cheating, so she would call her family and report him.

We were close, so she always called me often to ask what she could do about the issue, but then I didn't want her to destroy her beautiful marriage, so I always told her to calm down until we found out the truth because he is a very well-known pastor, so I don't want her to tarnish her husband's image for something we are not even sure of.

So one day two ladies came to make hair in my shop, and they were talking about my sister's husband, live and direct, in my presence without knowing I was his wife's sister. They talked about the girl my sister suspected in their church. Even after listening to all that, I couldn't tell my sister that I had found out the truth.

Some weeks later, I went for rehearsal, and before the rehearsal started, we were talking, and the guy that drummed in our church mentioned my sister's husband's name and that he and his wife are so good to him, and he mentioned the same girl my sister was suspecting.

I asked the guy how he knew my sister's husband, and he said he has been playing drums for his church for some years now, and he always sees the lady with him anywhere he goes. I couldn't tell him the truth so that he could tell me all he knew.

Some days later, my sister called me and said that someone had told her that they had seen him with the same girl. My sister and her husband started arguing at home about it, so I had to rush down to their house before things got worse.

I was able to calm my sister down and make her understand that as long as the girl didn't come into her matrimonial home, she shouldn't raise the matter. Later, I told my sister's husband everything I heard about him, and he confirmed that he had a side chick, but he can never leave my sister, so I didn't bother to know the side chick.

My sister overheard that, and she rushed in to ask. I turned the matter to another thing: that we were talking about a movie and not their family matters.

I know what I did was way too far by lying to my sister, even though I know the truth, but I couldn't bring myself to reveal the truth about her husband; if not, she would pack her bags.
and she would never return to that house, which would affect their kids.

Sometimes I still wonder why I lied to her, but to date, I couldn't tell her the truth because I don't want to be a home breaker. I haven't told her the truth yet, but someday I will.

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Yeah, some truths are better kept hidden usually for the safety of others. You did well my dear, because if your sister had heard about her husband's cheating from you, it wouldn't have been easy for their marriage.

That's the truth, I e 3rd find it difficult to explain to her because I know she is hot-tempered and I don't know what she would do next

Some things hidden are better left unraveled because of the catastrophic effects. I pray the man changes. If he doesn't, your sister will know by herself when the time is ripe. I support your action.

Yeah, I never want to be the reason for them to separate, aside from that the matter was beyond me

This is really serious because I'm still wondering if it was worth it or not. How could such a religious man openly admit he has a side chick, he should be ashamed of himself. Your sister trusted him and he has betrayed that trust, though it might feel like you were able to save your sisters marriage but if her husband keeps on cheating, eventually it might be too much for your sister to tolerate.

Hmmm I wish she could find out herself because I can't bring myself to tell her before it's too late

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