What we learned in elementary school was that "family is a group of people related by blood or by marriage." However, I believe that family can be understood in many different ways, extending beyond just biological or marital connections.
When we think about family, it can include biological relatives, but it can also encompass friends and loved ones who offer unconditional support, even if they are not related by blood. The way we define family often depends on our experiences with others. To me, "family" goes beyond mere relatives, they are the people who truly care about us.
A few months ago, I spoke with a friend about relocating to another country for better opportunities. He mentioned that he would return home after a few years. In contrast, I told him that I felt I had no one to come back to. Although I have family, they were not supportive during my upbringing. Despite their wealth and comfort, none of my relatives offered help when my parents faced challenges while we were growing up.
Growing up, no family members checked in on me. We only met at family gatherings influenced by my parents. I once tried to reach out to strengthen our family bond, but I stopped because it felt like I was expecting something from them in return.
If I have the chance to relocate, the only people I want to bring with me are my wife and kids, the ones I am responsible for. If possible, I would also want to include my parents. Beyond that, I feel no obligation to anyone else.
While my relatives have been distant, I’ve formed strong connections with people who are not related by blood but have supported me through tough times. Earlier this year, a female colleague noticed I was feeling down and asked if I was okay. I opened up about my financial struggles, and she went above and beyond to help me, even though we were just friends and colleagues.
When my wife and I had our first baby, complications arose that nearly cost them both their lives, and the medical bills were overwhelming. It was my colleagues who stepped in to help, without me even asking. They knew I was facing a significant challenge, and they came to my aid.
These people, who have been there for me in times of need, feel like my true family, despite lacking any blood ties. Sometimes, a group of people like coworkers or close friends can begin to feel like family through shared experiences and mutual support.
To me, family consists of those who genuinely care for one another. They are the people who have seen you at your worst and stayed by your side while you fought to overcome your challenges. Family doesn't ridicule or shame you, instead, they offer support, guidance, and even a gentle push when you need to get out of your own way. I believe that it doesn't matter what your background is, if you are there for me as a true friend, then you are family