An "urge" is a strong desire or impulse to do something. Even though people wanted to avoid it they could not do so. Last weekend I witness one such case which really made me to laugh and also feel pity for the condition of a drinker.
I was out for a mutton treat, and did not had any plan for drinks. I am not a drinker and my friend too initially refused to drink any alcohal. He always had a strong desire for drink. As we reach at the mutton shop, which used to be a heaven for drunkards, he started behaving like he was attracted towards the bottle of whisky. Mere looking at the other guy / group gulping down their glass of whiskey. Sensing his urge for drinking, I took him for a walk, till the time our mutton get ready. While he was in walk, he was ok, but soon he returned to the place, he started to behave awkwardly. A starnge case of uncontrolled urge. He started looking for a bottle and asked me to fund. I denied it, I don't wanted him to drink. But he somehow managed some funds and get a small bottle of whiskey. His urge was too strong to avoid alcohal. I unable to understand his reaction in begining, but once he had few peg of whiskey he gets normal and again started promising not to drink ever. I can understand that controlling an urge can be difficult because of various factors. Especially when it is strong, but it is possible with strategies like distraction, mindful awareness, and understanding that urges typically peak and then subside on their own if you can resist acting on them immediately.
Our brain releases dopamine when we engage in pleasurable activities, reinforcing the behavior and making it harder to resist the urge. In my friend case it was the temptation. Being in situations where the urge is easily triggered, like seeing a certain substance or being around people who engage in the behavior, can make it hard to resist. Other people in the area was drinking like he'll, there were bottle of whiskey on every table. And my fri3nd easily get tempted to drink. Looking at his behaviour, I was wondering, is it too hard to control an urge.
I was similar situation few years ago, where I alwsys gets a strong urge to eat packets of "Halliday bhujia" a snack item. I was so addicted to it, that I consume, 400 teams of packets in a week time. Findingbit unhealthy and my addiction, I controlled it in my way. Even now finding it nearby I never get any more urge for it. I controlled it easily through avoiding it. I Set clear boundaries and creating a plan to manage urges. I kept a packets of it on my cupboard but never opened it. Whenever i used to get the urge, I walk away. Recognizing situations or emotions that often trigger our urges can help us develop preventive strategies.
There is no way that we cannot get away from any such urges. Many people suffers from various desire or urge. But getting rid of bad urges is importsnt for a healthy well being. I know my friend who promises of avoiding drinking, will surely drink even more. He unable to control his urge and may prove wrong in the long run.
In good faith-peace!!
