When Parenting Becomes Abusive.

 Hello friends here 🥰💕🎉

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What a wonderful season we are all in and anticipating as we warm up. And I know many love 💕 this time of the year as I do.

Seeing this prompt by #hivelearners community reminded me of how things are gradually changing when it comes to how parents discipline their kids in the years that are past, especially here in Africa where I come from because I know this very question “To Sue Your Parents” is definitely one that can be made possible in the western world 🌍but not in Africa . In recent times, things are changing between parents and children due to technology and the era of innovation. Children are becoming wiser and awareness through the Internet is being created which is giving an edge to how things are done.

For me I don’t think its okay if children were given the right to sue their parents but disciplining a child should always have a limit despite the saying of “sparing the rod and spoiling the child” which gives every parent the right to discipline their children. But one thing is sure, its not discipline that brings common sense in many children, so we as parents should know when to stop so that we don’t do things extremely and make our children see us differently.

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In Africa where I come from many children can not stand up to their parents nor have the power to challenge them because they believe they have to respect their parents, so the question of suing their parents in court for any reason will never arise due to how they feel intimidated, and channeling the thoughts 💭 of being disowned by their parents creates so much anxiety in them 😥.

I have seen many grown up children being manipulated by their parents due to how parents feels their children should adhere to all they say to them even when it’s wrongly perceived and abusive, which mostly are, especially when kids are above the age of 20 years. Although I don’t support children should sue their parents but many who critically feel abusive has the right to do so if there should be law guiding it.

As a parent with grown up children I know when to stop anytime am in an argument with my children. First I consider most importantly the depth of the matter and where it will lead to if boundaries are pushed. Secondly, is it an issue that can cause the child some emotional 😭 stress which might bring lack of trust and break bonds. Doing this does not make me a weak parent but knowing that children should also have some rights to themselves because sometimes we the parents might be wrong in taking some actions disciplining our children.

We were differently brought up during our own growing up era because those were the days our parents will tell us to seat home all week and we will accept, but this generation is a fast pace generation who wants to do things there way. Limiting them is like killing their ambition and dream 😴. So we as parents can say this generation are from the moon 🌚 and things are all planned out for them through technology, innovation and change that is becoming too constant.

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I believe that children who had been thought 💭 to see what is right and wrong from the on set of life will always see the good side of their parents and will never be rebellious nor consider suing their parents in any circumstances especially if there is a good bond, and unless if a parent becomes so abusive towards their wards or have extremely disciplined a child that has lead to torture which will make the child 👦 thinks otherwise to sue if there is law guiding children towards it.

This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content of week 143, edition 02, tagged “TO SUE YOUR PARENTS”.

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