One of the most important things we can learn and have at the back of our mind is to never depend on humans because they're creatures of imperfections striving towards perfection, meaning having a sole trust and dependency on someone for one thing or another can lead to disappointment, which can lead to sadness and the likes. Disappointment is just like betrayal; it can be annoying, although not as severe as betrayal can be, due to how it can ultimately lead to a breach of trust in an individual, which can lead to many things. I've been disappointed on several occasions, and in this article I'll share some of those cases with you.
Like I said above, disappointment can be annoying and a pain in the ass. I've been the victim of several occasions, and one thing those experiences have taught me is to never depend on anyone for anything, even if I look up to them for one thing or another. I usually have an aura of doubt already lingering in my mind that shows my lack of confidence in them, and instead, while still looking up to them, I also seek and work on alternative means of getting the situation sorted so that in the end I won't be disappointed if the person gives me an excuse in the dying minutes.
Being disappointed could be as simple as a friend or loved ones forgetting to wish you happy birthday, or as severe as being when we're let down be someone we trusted or rely on, take for instance someone who promised to help you pay your tuition fee and kept on reassuring you that they would, only for them to at the dying minutes give you another story or excuses why theu couldn't, and regardless of which it's, one thing is certain and that's the fact that we'll be sad, frustrated, feel hopeless and be angry.
I remember some years ago when I first gained admission into the university; I was in search of a roommate that I could rent a hostel with, so we could split the rent bill, and fortunately for me, I found one. We both discussed and agreed to be each other's roommate, and so we began an ultimate search for a place we could rent. After hours of searching, we finally found one in the evening of that day and were even lucky to meet the owner of the house to talk about the price and how we'll be paying.
After the discussion, given the fact that it's evening and it's during the era when all withdrawal is done at the bank ATM or inside the bank, unlike how we have POS agents all around now, that means we had to wait till the next day to go withdraw the money from our bank and then go together to pay the landlord. On the morrow of that day, I quickly rushed to the bank to withdraw my money, after which I dialed the other guy's number so we could both meet at our prospective new hostel, but regardless of how many times I dialed his number, he never picked up his calls.
After multiple tries, I assume his phone is on silent, so I decided to just go to the hostel and wait for him, and on getting there, I meet the landlord, who I tried to remind about our visit the previous day, but what he told me shocked me and left me disappointed; apparently the other guy I spoke with had come earlier with someone else entirely to rent the place we both agreed on renting together, and he even lied to the landlord that the other guy he came with was me.
When I narrated my side of the story to the landlord, he was dumbfounded and felt played, so he said he won't give the house to the guy again but give it to me instead if I can find someone else to rent the place with. Unfortunately for me, I couldn't find anyone, and he ended up letting the other guy move in with his new roommate.
The disappointment was so painful and far worse because I had to sleep outside for about two days due to me not being able to get a cheap hostel that's within my budget or see someone who's like me looking for a roommate. At the end of the day, even though I ended up having a place to stay, I literally distanced myself from the guy who disappointed me because I don't think he's someone I should be around for fear of him using his corny habits to play a smart one on me again.
He himself knew what he did was bad, and so he maintained his distance and never tried to apologize or speak with me. Despite the fact that we were both in the same department and attended the same lectures regularly, I did forgive him, but I think the distance is necessary to not give room for such experience again.
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