In my life , Not taking things personally has been one of my biggest lessons.
I am pretty good at it now but for years I did take things personally even though I am a pretty even tempered person.
In my life I have learned what ever someone else believes or experiences is out of my control. I can only focus on what I am creating for myself.
I came upon this idea years ago in a book I read called "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Not taking things personally is a powerful concept to work with.
I have learned that I can save myself a lot of grief by looking at what triggered me rather than blaming someone.
It is not easy sometimes because people can be very provoking.
Doing this practice has taught me to not care what others think,
as long as I am doing my very best.
This is the second of the four agreements, Always try to do your best.
Insults will not matter and compliments are not even necessary if you love yourself.
These are the four agreements.
1. Be Impeccable with your word. Very important, It is good to say what you mean and mean what you say. (harder than it seems)
2. Don't take anything personally
3. Don't make assumptions. Also easier said than done. My assumptions are often wrong anyway.
4. Always do your best. This reminds me of when I was a Boyscout in my youth
If you can incorporate these concepts into your life you may see positive improvements.
Adopting these principles has made a big difference for me.
I hope you will take a look at this book.
If you have read it.
Leave a comment and tell me what you think.