Taking things personally?

in #alive3 years ago

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In my life , Not taking things personally has been one of my biggest lessons.
I am pretty good at it now but for years I did take things personally even though I am a pretty even tempered person.

In my life I have learned what ever someone else believes or experiences is out of my control. I can only focus on what I am creating for myself.
I came upon this idea years ago in a book I read called "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Not taking things personally is a powerful concept to work with.
I have learned that I can save myself a lot of grief by looking at what triggered me rather than blaming someone.
It is not easy sometimes because people can be very provoking.
Doing this practice has taught me to not care what others think,
as long as I am doing my very best.
This is the second of the four agreements, Always try to do your best.
Insults will not matter and compliments are not even necessary if you love yourself.
These are the four agreements.

1. Be Impeccable with your word. Very important, It is good to say what you mean and mean what you say. (harder than it seems)
2. Don't take anything personally
3. Don't make assumptions. Also easier said than done. My assumptions are often wrong anyway.
4. Always do your best. This reminds me of when I was a Boyscout in my youth

If you can incorporate these concepts into your life you may see positive improvements.
Adopting these principles has made a big difference for me.
I hope you will take a look at this book.
If you have read it.
Leave a comment and tell me what you think.

I am alive and grateful for life.

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Nice post Tom. These are excellent principles to live by. I too tend to take things too personally but I try to not let them affect me.

Thanks John.
It all takes practice. These principles are good for marketing also because people can sometimes be hard to deal with

It's an important lesson that we need to keep on practising! Keeping in mind that the other person's negative reaction "is not about me" can be a helpful way to avoid taking things personally.

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You are correct. That is one of the hard parts . remembering that it is not about me

I have sadly learned that a little too late. Before that, I saw it important to respond to every negative relating to me or my views! Great reminder.

It is never too late. Life is a never ending lesson. It only matters where you are today. Thanks for the comment

Especially on the internet, negative, hurtful comments should be totally ignored. There are some very unhappy people out there, that want everyone else to be unhappy too. I am so glad you have learned to not take things personnally.

Oh man can people be mean. but maybe a positive attitude can rub off on them

I do my best but your right it is not always easy.
People seem more sensitive and outraged these days 😎
I just try and be agreeable and like you say try and not take things personal.
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Yes a lot of people seem very angry and unreasonable. Hopefully they can learn this lesson one day

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It's a good lesson, don't take things personally. I would add that you have to have clear goals and not stray from them.

You are right . I have found that it is very important to have goals. It keeps me on track. Not having goals is like being in a boat without a rudder.

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