In the new age marriages are being given lesser importance by the day and many youngsters having a feeling that it's better to just be by them selves rather than getting into the institution of marriage is kind of ruining the Family structure in the society. I have observed this with many of my friends, they have not been wanting to get married in their 20s and then by mid 30s or 40s suddenly they get the urge of getting married and they start looking for a partner. When they see that people around them are now with families, suddenly the loneliness hits them. Also late marriage and then having children at a later age for a female has it's own set of complications in conceiving a child.
Lately this is what I see specially in India, that youngsters in their 20s are very career oriented and their focus is on building up their career, which is not wrong, everyone should have a vision for their life and that must be executed in the early years of life to stabilize the future, but at the same time life does not just move in one direction, the focus of life has to be in all areas of life, which is your career and your family life. Youngsters these days feel, that getting married means getting tied up to responsibility and having someone sitting on your head to keep telling you what to do and what not to do.
I am a person of a conservative thinking and I have never been much in favor of live-in relationship. I feel that in such relationship it is very easy for either of the partner to walk out if it does not suit them. As far as only 2 people are concerned it is fine, but when they have children then such set ups are very harmful and traumatic for children. In the pursuit of their own freedom, they destroy the child's life. Well, everyone will have their own arguments over this, but as I mentioned these are my thoughts and beliefs.
When we get married, we take wows towards each other of being with each other in sad and happy times, in ups and downs of life and as we live on, we try to fulfill those wows in our best capacity. We will fail sometimes but we will also try to gather up from there and try to make it beautiful. Again, there are some marriages that turn out very dreadful also, but that does not mean the whole institution of marriage should be demonized.
Women empowerment is just not about having high degrees and having senior positions in job or being an entrepreneur, it is also about how capable they are to make a beautiful family, inculcating the right values in their children for them to turn out a better future generation. Women has a major role to play in shaping up our society and for that first they need to understand the importance of family and the major role that they play in it.
I believe that getting married at a right age is important which can be very much between the late 20s to early 30s and then having children by the age of 35 is ideal for a healthy family life. The later you plan for children, one must also understand that there is more generation gap and this gap is an obstacle in many ways in their growing up. It reduces the ability to understand each other, and when these children grow up it is very much possible that they will have a distant relationship with their parents because they have really not been able to connect very well with them in their growing up. Even a 20-year gap is a challenge to deal with, so imagine what a 40-year gap would be like to deal with. Also having children at a very later age can be challenging in many other ways like dealing with your own energy levels. You are at a high till your 50s and you can give your best attention to your children.
Of course, there is nothing right or nothing wrong, we live in a diverse society background and each one has their own thought process and also their past experiences which shape up their beliefs and these are my personal thoughts and beliefs that I am sharing today, with no offense to anyone living life in whatever way they are.
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