What do generous people hate ?

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Generate people are the most amazing people on earth, they can go as far as any extent to help with their time, efforts and money to make other people achieve their goals, but it as to be at will. They hate feeling like others are trying to impose things on them, it makes them feel being used, taken advantage of and also makes them look like a fool, which they try as much as possible to fight against.

Over time, I have noticed this in others and also myself as I am one of them (generous people). In this post I'll tell you what happened to me some days ago that made me feel that way again after a very long time. Trust me, I made it clear that I can't be taking for granted.

About a month ago, on a fateful Wednesday evening, around 9pm or thereabout. After being indoors all day, I decided to take a walk to a store near my house to get somethings. On my way back, I walked past a lady who later approached me, and asked if I was going to walk though a bushy dark path not very far ahead of us. I told her I wasn't going far, then asked what the issue was.

She then explained how she thought she would get a bike to take her home but due to fuel scarcity I think, she couldn't find any that late, and that she doesn't want to pass through the dark path alone. Since it wasn't very far ahead, I decided to walk her through the path and turn my back as soon as we get to the other end which I did. She expressed her gratitude, and collected my number so as to let me know when she gets home and also thank me, which she did.

After that day, we started to chat and talk on phone once in a while. She would branch to say hi sometimes while passing in front of my house. Amongst the different conversations we had over time was one related to relationships. I told her that I'm single and that I honestly wasn't ready for relationships, due to some personal reasons. According to her, she is single and claimed that she wasn't ready for a relationship as well, But over time she started getting attached. She would always ask to see me even when its not convenient, and sometimes ask me to help her out with some things even when she could easily get people around her to do them. More often than not, I told her I was busy and unavailable.


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That wasn't the real issue,the real issue came when I started to notice the tone at which she askes for favours. She sounds more like I should do a thing whenever she askes, like I should stop what I was doing to attend to her needs. That sense of entitlement pisses me off, making me feel like I was being used. I stop picking her calls and made sure she had no access to me, that way she would understand that I was not a simp, cus I wanted nothing from her as to relationships or s*x.

This brings me back to the question, what do generous people hate ? There are two things I can say for sure that they detest, and that is "the feeling of entitlement" which I spoke about earlier in this post, and the second one is "Ungratefulness".

Generous people want to know that what they did was helpful and appreciated, that way they have the sense of accomplishment and it helps them encourage themselves to keep doing more and helping more people.

#LESSON
I'll be talking mostly to ladies, especially those from my side of the world, not all though but to whom it may concern.

If someone(a guy) ever did something for you out of their convenience and willingly, never conclude that he is a simp, or that he is going it to get his way to you.... Some of us where brought up in environment where they share and help others without thinking of having anything in return from them. In other words, do not feel entitled and be appropriative.

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It had never occurred to me to think about what people who are generous by nature might hate. Interesting point of view, nothing imposed is good, because it's not born of will, it's done out of obligation because you have no choice but to do it.

I think over time she has fallen in love with you alone and felt entitled to chat with you so much, things happen, but it's good that you have put some distance. It's happened to me too and it's quite embarrassing, unpleasant.

it's done out of obligation because you have no choice but to do it.

And if one eventually does what was imposed on them to do. The feeling of regret that comes after can be so terrible.

I think over time she has fallen in love with you

I think so too, but I even if I wanted to date at this moment, she wouldn't be the choice, that's because I really can't be with someone that imposes.

One other thing I deliberately didn't mention in the post was... Some weeks ago, we were both walking down the street, I saw a female friend and stopped to greet her. This new lady literally brought up an attitude. She wasn't being angry, but it was obvious that my friend had to hurry away.

I, being someone that is observant, took note of all that.

If that could happen when we weren't dating, what would happen if we start date