Photograph taken with my Tecno camon 18p cell phone.
We will always be an easy prey of our own emotions and feelings, if we do not work in the best way to learn to deal with them, it is well known that when we accumulate more than we can bear, there comes a point when we explode making everything around us to be affected. This happens with resentment, that which we keep so that no one, except us, knows that it is there, that it exists as a living reminder of that bad time, action or even comment that someone may have made to us.
Therefore, resentment is not only taking an inordinate proportion in us, but, in turn, prevents us from moving forward because we cannot have a life full of positive aspects, when we come dragging unresolved emotions that generate so much displeasure and make us feel anger. It is good, then, to analyze at what point is it healthy to cultivate this, and how can we get rid of such negative emotions that simply subtract and do not add anything in our life, so I would like to share with you some steps that I have followed when letting go of this feeling, which are as follows:
Por tanto, el resentimiento no solo va tomando una proporción desmedida en nosotros, sino que, a su vez, nos impide avanzar porque no podemos tener una vida llena de aspectos positivos, cuando venimos arrastrando emociones sin resolver que nos generan tanto desagrado y nos hacen sentir rabia. Es bueno, analizar entonces en ¿qué punto es sano cultivar esto?, y ¿de qué modo podemos librarnos de emociones tan negativas, cómo está?, que simplemente restan y no suman nada en nuestra vida, por lo que me gustaría compartir con ustedes algunos pasos que he seguido a la hora de dejar ir este sentimiento, los cuales son los siguientes:
Learning to forgive / Aprender a perdonar:
This is perhaps one of the things that cost us the most, because it is easy to say: "forgive the one who has hurt you", but it is really difficult in practice to achieve this, but if we just stop thinking of that person as the cause of our wrongdoing. And we begin to reflect in a generalized way, understanding that the benefits obtained by forgiving are much more important than giving our heart and spirit to relive in our present these actions, we will see that there is nothing like letting go of that negative feeling.
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Understand the importance of being kind to ourselves/ Entender la importancia de ser amables con nosotros mismos:
Perhaps we are always judging every action we perform and questioning everything around us, and when something simply does not go the way we had imagined, we start to fall into the endless circle of resentment towards everyone around us. That is why it is important to know that everything depends on different factors that, although inexplicable, do not have to be the cause of experiencing some disappointment that makes us feel the need to be furious with someone or simply with the world in general.
Tal vez siempre estamos juzgando cada acción que realizamos y cuestionando todo a nuestro alrededor, y cuando algo simplemente no sale del modo que habíamos imaginado, empezamos a caer en el círculo interminable de resentimientos hacia todo los que nos rodea. Por eso es importante saber, que todo depende de factores diferentes que, aunque inexplicables, no tienen por qué ser la causa de vivir alguna decepción que nos haga sentir esa necesidad de estar furiosos con alguien o simplemente con el mundo en general.
Trust that everything passes/ Confiar en que todo pasa:
Nothing lasts forever, as they say, things change, vary and often even disappear. This happens in the same way with resentment, there comes a point where it is already out of our system and sometimes we can not even remember what we lived that caused us so much damage. In such a way that learning to look at and face the present will make everything we once suffered for part of the past.
Nada dura para siempre, como bien dicen, las cosas cambian, varían y muchas veces hasta desaparecen. Esto ocurre de igual forma con el resentimiento, llega un punto en dónde ya esté sale de nuestro sistema y a veces ni podemos recordar aquello que vivimos que nos generó tanto daño. De manera tal que aprender a mirar y afrontar el presente hará que todo aquello por lo que alguna vez sufrimos sea parte del pasado.
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Stop thinking that everything is personal / Dejar de pensar que todo es a modo personal:
Sometimes we take the words of others and any action as something they are doing to us or we feel that it is simply aimed at harming us. This type of mentality will only make us live in a constant paranoia and predisposed to share with anyone, it is important to understand that we should not create the habit of taking everything so personally.
En ocasiones tomamos las palabras de los demás y cualquier acción como algo que nos están haciendo a nosotros o sentimos que simplemente está dirigido a dañarnos. Este tipo de mentalidad solo hará que vivamos en una paranoia constante y predispuestos para compartir con cualquier persona, es importante entender que no debemos crear la costumbre de tomar todo de modo tan personal.
Work on detachment / Trabajar en el desapego:
Letting go of all those emotional burdens, unfavorable situations and fights will make us work towards our own well-being. In which, we will focus on leaving behind everything that we are simply keeping as if it were a treasure and it is only something that is eating away at our heart and even our spirit.
Soltar todas aquellas cargas emocionales, situaciones desfavorables y peleas hará que trabajemos en función de nuestro propio bienestar. En el cual, nos enfocaremos en dejar atrás todo aquello que simplemente estamos guardando como si de cuál tesoro se tratara y solo es algo que nos está carcomiendo el corazón y hasta nuestro espíritu.
Free use photo taken from pexels. Photographer Los Muertos Crew.
Express what we feel / Expresar lo que sentimos:
This is the key to avoid fostering much more negative emotions, so it is always good to say what we feel and if something hurts us or hurts us, say it more than once, so that somehow things can be solved. Let's not wait until the last moment, until the drop overflows the glass, so that things can be solved, sometimes it is just a matter of dialogue and hope for the best in each situation.
Esta es la clave para evitar fomentar emociones mucho más negativas, por lo que es bueno siempre decir lo que sentimos y si algo nos lastima o nos hace daño, decirlo más de una vez, para que de algún modo las cosas se solucionen. No esperemos hasta el último momento, hasta que la gota rebase el vaso, para que las cosas puedan ser solventadas, a veces solo se trata de dialogar y esperar lo mejor de cada situación.
Thank you for reading and appreciating my writing corresponding to February's theme of this great community || Gracias por leer y apreciar mi escrito correspondiente al tema del mes de febrero de esta gran comunidad.