The Joy and Sadness, My experience with "SURPRISE"

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Am glad to be here again, this will be my second post to this community, i must salute the admin of this great community and all the active members of the family for the amazing job they have done to keep the community going and active. I also want to salute the lovely supporters of this family for the great support given to content creators in this community.

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Going through a few post that have been posted in the community, I can say that you all are doing so much to keep the family active and productive. I am back for effective engagement, and i hope to stay consistent and committed to the family.

Today i want to join the family in sharing my experience and thought on the #emotions & #feelings community, on the topic of the month, "SURPRIES"
I will be sharing my views on the excitement or sadness that comes as a result of Surprise emotions. Yes we know that surprise is like a coin with the head and tail and every time it is toasted, will either result in the head (positive) or the tail (negative). many times life does not offer us the room to choose the very one we should expect but occasions displays to us the end effect of the event, most times will be positive, (Excitement and coin head) and at other times will be negative (Sadness and coin tail)

What is Surprise?

Surprise are the basic element of life and we can not do without it, for the main fact that it comes unexpected, you would not plan to receive it and as such will meet you unprepared. when it meats you unprepared, expect to have an experience that will leave a mark in your life.

My Beautiful Experience

Amazingly it has brought my life beautiful experiences, in and out of my life, i have seen joy, happiness, smiles and excitement as a result of some amazing positive surprise, I can recall, 15 years back, my dad surprised me with a gift of a new computer brick game, the excitement was something unspeakable, I could not explain the feelings but the expression was worth it, till now, i am still keeping the track record of the event, again and again, i have been blessed with amazing surprises by friends, colleges and family in no small way. but many of it do bring pains and fear.

my Horrible Experience

In as much as we normally expect that surprises should by only positive, it has also brought to us horrible events, like pains, fear, confusion, tears , anger and sadness. when this happens we many times get tired and discourage, we feel it should never be but then we can not undo nature, but i believe we can structure a few thing to help us handle life after the experience.

What do we or can we do?

The truth is that many have recieve strangth to push into the future just by the experience of one positive surprises, and a lot have also been grounded by the singular encounter with negative surprise, some on the other hand has lost their life.

As i make an attempt to evaluate and analyze our subject of interest, and to think of a way forward, i had to consider so many things and i think can be helpful if put into consideration.

We are all blessed with three basic faculties, which if we can effectively engage will do us good. the mind , the will and Emotions, this three institutions are very important and should be effectively engaged, one can not do without the other, understanding their functions will help us get set for all issues of unexpected event.
The very thing about surprises are the after effect of the event, the impact you are left with. Having the knowledge that surprises are basically part of life, will help us prepare our minds on the balance to combat with what ever is brought to us by surprises.

Conclusion

Surprises offers us a mixed experience, as such we should be prepared to manage the both outcome of the event be it joyful or sad. preparing your mind, will do so much in getting us set to handle or manage the outcome of the event when it shows up.

Today i deliberately take responsibility for my state of heart or mind, I choose to be happy or to be sad, i do not grant access to external event to decide weather i am happy or sad, I choose always to be happy, so weather the event brings a joyful or sad outcome, it does not change anything about me, you can also condition your mind and heart to be able to handle it.

My sincere thanks goes to the #emotions and #feelings community admin for availing us with the opportunity to share our experience of surprise in the month of August. A big thanks to all of you who have made this community an amazing place, thank you and God bless you.

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It is amazing to have such a strong control over your emotions that the external even lose their meaning and effect on your mood but you tend to maintain the positive emotion in you no matter what happens. Kudos to you for having this quality 👏

You are right that surprises appear all of a sudden but what matters the most is their after effects. For being successful in our lives we need to train our mind so that it do not over react but deal with the situation calmly

you have well spoken, thanks for stopping by

My pleasure

It's a pleasure to greet you.😄

I liked the part where you mentioned those three faculties. I will take it into account. And that surprises somehow prepare us for the future. I very much agree with that. Many of them we remember very well, and we say, "This will never happen to me again." I think that's what it's all about, learning.✅

Regards @joyfullheart 👋

Thanks so much @aaalviarez for this thoughtful comment, I will need time to talk a bit on this three faculties and how we can effectively engage them, cause if we can engage those guys well, we will cut off many excesses and make life better.

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