Most of us know it but tend to forget that 'the power to change our current lives lies within us.' And it doesn't matter whether you were born from a rich or poor family or where you schooled or where you work or the relationship your in. Changing might not be easy, requiring a lot of patience and hardwork, but still you will make it if you decide to.
We all have one life which you can't pause or rewind that's why it's important to make the most of it by having control over how you spend it. Try out different things, if your choices turn out to be bad, you'll learn from them and take the necessary steps to change. If the choices turn out to be good, reinforce them. But don't stick with the life you don't like; working on a job you hate, staying where you don't like, staying with someone who abuses you and so on.
Reasons for sticking with the life we don't like.
There are many reasons for this even when we know the power to change our lives is in our hands.
Comfort zone: We choose to stay living in a bad life because it's what we know and have always known. There is that fear of trying out something new fearing where it might lead us.
Doubt: We don't believe we can make the necessary changes in our lives.
Fear pain: We fear the pain that comes with making the changes required in our lives. For example feeling lonely after leaving a partner you've known for long or after changing residence, having body aches when quitting an addiction, getting hungry when on a diet, discomfort of working while others are resting or hanging out and so on. Many people rather continue suffering than going through this pain.
Minding what other people think about us: We try to avoid disappointing people around us. Prioritizing what makes them happy to our own happiness. So we are not willing to change because it'll change how they think about us.
We have the power to transform our lives.
As human beings, we are powerful creatures. For those that are Christians, the bible says we are created in the image of God. We are the only creatures that have the ability to change how we feel or the situation we are in. For this to happen though, we have to take responsibility of everything that happens to us starting from the small thoughts and feelings to the big circumstances in our lives.
After accepting we are responsible for everything that happens to us, there will be no reason to complain or blame anyone for the bad times in our lives. We shall start taking the small steps required to change the situations we are in; reading the necessary books about what we are experiencing, attending seminars on personal development, working on what we makes us happy and so on. It'll be hard at first but this pain is temporary, soon we'll be happy and contented with our lives.
With this, we'll learn to be responsible for our happiness, not what makes others around us happy. Everyone has to be responsible for their happiness, irrespective of the decisions you make as you try to be the best version of yourself.
Let's take charge of our lives. No one else but we are in charge of our lives and our happiness.
Cheers
