Dear uncle,
Before you bring bae home for the first time, here are some crucial tips. It will help you avoid many disastrous wars in your relationship if you heed this advice.
Whenever you take her to your parents' house for the first time, or whenever she comes over in general, don't leave her alone, don't leave her at your parents' mercy, particularly if you know that your parents are experienced at measuring wife material or if your mother is an errand queen. It's crucial to stay by her side, to assist her with little chores, to show her where things are, to help her finish her errands, and to have fun with her.
I know there's a desire to make her feel at home when she visits, to let your mother evaluate her character and determine if she's marriage material, which is fine, but I'm sorry to spoil your wife material assessment party, uncle, if you ever need your mother to examine a woman's character, you're still a child, and I'm not sorry, you're just a big child.
It's important to note how this whole bringing home bae thing works; Momma is not there to help you gauge the true character and temperament of the woman you bring home to wed, sir, that's for baby men. Mom is supposed to learn to bond and understand the lady you bring home, sir, this is a grown man's approach. We should grow up and take responsibility for our choices, we should start being men! It's painful to hear a grown man say, 'my mother will assess her and see if she is right for me as a spouse.'
Finding a spouse isn't "finding a woman whose mother decides who would be the perfect woman for him," sir. You must rise as a man, sir, because your parents cannot assist you with this sort of examination. You must do all the research and gain all the knowledge yourself, and when you feel that you've found God's best for you, take her home and let your parents start learning to bond and accept the woman you've chosen
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Most of the time, that testing of a thing just serves to determine whether his mother likes you or not. She is looking for similarity rather than evaluating you according to the requirements of a wife. And wahala if she doesn't like you. Boys will never stand by their choice or the initial trust they had in the woman. A no is a no if mom says so.
The phrase "My mother said it won't work" comes from this.
Ladies, run from such males; it's not even his mother choosing you that's the issue. When his mother begins making decisions about everything that occurs in your home, which will undoubtedly happen, the true issue will become apparent.
Such men are always infants; they never mature.
Their brain takes up two rooms in their mother's house; the only thing that leaves is their penis.
I stated what I had to!
If she is a good lady and you love her, give her the tools she needs to succeed before taking her home.
Tell her your mother's preferences and how to behave at home.
Before bringing her home, let her know about the household customs in your family.
Tell her how your parents feel about respect, honor, etc.; for example, if kneeling to them in greeting is a sign of respect to them, let her know so she can behave properly.
The majority of you dudes are just weird. You do absolutely nothing to offer your wife a good introduction to your family values; instead, you bring her home and demand that she be fully informed in order to test her. Then, after watching her stumble around the house, you declare that she is not a marriage material, ignoring that her behavior toward your family may have been influenced by her own family's upbringing.
Some callous baby boys, meantime, already know the goal is to introduce you to his mother!After three years of dating and sex adventures, they couldn't tell you that she would never approve of you, so the easiest way to end the relationship is to introduce you to his family. That way, he can say, "Ehmmmm, uhmmmm, my family says blablabla," making it seem like it wasn't his fault.
Thank you for reading through!
I remain your favourite writer, Blackdovy.