Nigerian Women and the mentality of relationships as a means to an end!

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In this video I talked about the fact that a majority of Nigerian women have the weird mentality that relationships should be majorly about them and their happiness while the other party is simply left out and considered a means to an end.

These relationships are mostly one sided and they often consider material possessions and what they'd stand to gain in the long run to be top-tier without considering that the second party also deserves happiness and a loving partner.

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Well in my own view relationship should always be about the two partners, loving and caring for eachother, that is why a lady should be financially stable and intelligent, you both should make an impart on each other.

Well in my own view relationship should always be about the two partners, loving and caring for eachother

I sincerely appreciate this. It's well said.

Relationships are about both parties caring for each other and meeting their goals by supporting each other. Both parties should be able to have an impact on each other’s life.

Well I would say it is missed place priorities
Everyone going into a relationship always has an agenda
Before going into a relationship one must have seen values and what that person can offer in that relationship
When I say offer
It isn't just material offers,
Most people also consider intellectual offer as well.
So I think this is for the majority of people with misplaced priorities as to what they really need in a relationship.
No all females have NOTHING to offer
I wouldn't generalize all female having nothing to offer
Or demanding everything

There is always am agenda for a relationship. But it shouldn't be all about materials and what's to gain from the second party

Most people also consider intellectual offer as well

Yes, you're right.

No all females have NOTHING to offer
I wouldn't generalize all female having nothing to offer

Which is why I mentioned at the beginning of the video that I do not intend to generalise. Because there are also ladies out there that add value to relationships.

It would seem the whole rationale behind the term relationship has been lost. However, to those of us, who understands a little of it would do well to not fall in with the crowd of people that follows it's fallen concept.
Nice to meet you, uchihanagato. :)

This is very accurate. The purpose behind relationship has been lost by a majority of people A higher percentage!

Nice to meet you, uchihanagato. :)

Nice to meet you too vincecharlie.

This topic is interesting i once heard a nigerian girl say "Men are givers, woman are takers". Well, it's bullshit!. They believe they're the main characters in a relationship, and they actually can't give anything in a relationship but always want to receive. The truth is, all those girls that have that kind of mentality are all jobless girls. Now, they'll mix up the role of a husband with that of a boyfriend. If you ask them what do you offer in this relationship? All they'll say is "it's your job to take care of me".

"Men are givers, woman are takers".

The mentality of a beggar. Those kind of ladies don't have anything to offer but to run you dry then move unto the next one.

Relationships should be about two parties coming together to achieve a common goal while growing together and assisting each other through every step.

Something I have expected someone to talk about for a very long time. Ladies should learn to love without having to see the relationship as an opportunity to pay their bills.

Haaa.. looks like you've paid lots of unplanned bills in the past.. hashtag girlfriends... 😄 🤣 😂

Ladies with the mentality of receiving are my definition of the result of terrible parenting and poor upbringing.

Great topic, although i wouldn't totally agree with you.
Yes , a lot of ladies have now become liabilities in the life of their partners. Ladies need to understand that it takes two to tangle. If one party is bringing to the table and the other is not, then there is going to be a big problem. It doesn't apply to women only though but to both genders.

Yes , a lot of ladies have now become liabilities in the life of their partners.

Unfortunately, Yes!

If one party is bringing to the table and the other is not, then there is going to be a big problem.

Serious problem o. In the end, the relationship will end on the basis of quarrel.

I find it weird when ladies depend totally on a man to take all their responsibilities. Unfortunately this has become the new normal.

Love isn't receiving alone without thinking of giving, it's called being a pest.

Unfortunately this has become the new normal.

This new normal really messed up.

Love really should be about both parties being together to achieve a common goal while helping each other become best versions of themselves.

I think this is the problem of almost every lady out there. They place material possessions above any other thing therefore leading to most of them being single for a very long time. The wealth of a guy shouldn't be the priority before marriage, although it's just as important but still it should be treated as a secondary necessity.

Thank you for this. Unfortunately the concept of relationship has been turned upside down in the world today and it has become about materials and what they stand to gain.

This is nothing but the truth, their only aim is what they stand to gain and not because of love thats why Marriage Crashes so easily these days, Crazy times

It's a messed up world init. Relationships are now about the opportunities that will come out of it in the long run.

Love died a long time ago. Lol!

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