People often wonder why love fades with time without trying to understand if what they thought was love was actually love or something as simple as attraction or infatuation. The ability to tell the difference between love, attraction, and infatuation actually makes a difference in the long run and will allow for proper evaluation of feelings.
While attraction can be based on physical appearance, intelligence, proximity, mutual interests and lots more, infatuation is simply a function of attraction and provides a psychological projection of unrealistic perfection.
Love is built upon communication and understanding that your partner is not perfect but has weaknesses and flaws which you are willing to accommodate. Love doesn't fade, relationships simply get boring with time because it has begun to lack activities that existed at the beginning.
Couples often get so comfortable within months and years of courtship/marriage that they let go of those activities they enjoyed doing together perhaps because they're too busy with their career/ taking care of the children and forget that the relationship should be majorly about them both while the children are simply a product of the relationship and shouldn't be allowed to cancel out the activities they enjoy together.
Those random dinners, movie nights goes a long way in re-igniting those sparks in relationships, which means that true love doesn't fade but the excitement simply diminishes with time. This excitement can be re-ignited by revisiting those activities that once used to be a regular part of their lives.
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Previous videos in the series:
Understanding the African reaction to Pansexuality!
The African Mentality on Women expression
Nigerian women and the mentality of relationships as a means to an end!
A date with eighteen +1 ladies!
The Mentality of control in relationships!
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