The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.
I have heard many sayings like, "forgive and forget", "Don't be a prisoner of yourself", and so many more and just for a minute or so when these words sink in, you feel like you can do it but the plain truth is that it isn't easy.
This is because the only people who hurt us in the first instance are those that are closer to us to the bone. And when their betrayal comes, it sometimes meets us in an unexplainable situation that all we want to do is just let out that rage and fire in us like a curveball to every direction we can aim at.
No one has been hurt by strangers that whatever was done to them took them by surprise...No! Those who we respect, love, and would give the world if there's a sorcery to get it are the same sort of humans that gives us a purple eye without batting their eyelashes and would give us exactly what can kill us because they know the things we don't eat.
I have had my fair share in this also. Having to be hurt by those close to me that I ended up minding my business more and more not because they've got me but because I have felt peace and love the beauty it brings to my life. We all feel pain differently and have been hit by different people, but they all give the same result; pain.
Some have taken the pain right up and used it as a way to get back to them, others have swallowed the pain, learn their mistakes in trusting the person and just back away from people in general while some others bury themselves into their work or businesses so they won't have to think about it. The fact that we heal differently doesn't give us a clear path on how to forgive. Therefore, we just do our best in life.
But I do know this. If you allow what people have done to you to shape you completely, then you aren't doing yourself a favor. Don't let their actions push you to close the door on everyone. Life is complicated , and we sometimes have to go through these pains to grow. It is hard, unbearable, and super hurt to be in the same room with these people, but you have to grow and walk with a true smile on your face.
Learn to forgive, but do not forget what they did to you so that you won't make the same mistake in life. Don't let them in, respect, and love yourself, and do not give anyone the power to control your emotions. Truly, it is hard to control the heart, I know, but just be careful. Never go to a room filled with people that backbite and make friends out of them because whoever they backbite on with you, the moment you rise up from your seat, you are next in line.
Also, do not let the pain of what they've done to you control you. I have met people who do exactly what someone did to them to another innocent soul because they are angry and think everyone is the same. Don't make a monster out of yourself, and most importantly, forgive yourself for believing in them, forgive yourself, and see what they've done to you as a way for you to move forward. Be grateful and don't hold a silent grudge on yourself, and here's music to that.
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Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading and listening.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.