Inside a man... who rescues him?

In a conversation with some people about not-so-trivial matters, someone asked me, "Why don't you just ask your parents for the money?" I was taken aback and took a while to respond. I was firstly surprised that a guy way older than me would run to Daddy for small things like battery replacement, but that wasn't my business, and so I replied, "Man, you're aware that not all fingers are equal, right?"

Knowing when to ask for help is important, that I admit. It's the idea of seeking how to be rescued by someone else that I don't quite feel comfortable with. Might come off as having ego, but when it comes to having problems, especially financially, it's often a solo mission for me. And I think that generally is the perspective for most men, but it's different for ladies.

Checking on a friend and how she's recovering, she shared with me, "You think the plenty of money I paid for these meds came from my salary? No, I got help." That's not something you would normally hear from a man. And it got me thinking, "What do men actually do when they are broke? Who rescues them?"

While I would see my female friends call dad, uncle, babe, tight pals, or whoever it may be when they need support, I hardly ever see my male friends do that. I have seen my closest guys dead-ass broke before, and how they go about is different. Generally, men would only borrow in the times that they're not at their best, if necessary, or at the very highest, ask really tight gees for something small to get by if things are so heated.

Women can be independent, of course, but they are generally favoured more than men. And that's alright, because men are built to be hunters, providers, leaders, protectors, and stoics, and it even reflects in their perspectives and decisions. So it adds up why you'd hear many guys say that they need to be solidly grounded before they start a family. Some would say, "When I have enough money, then I would begin to think of marriage."

Quite frankly, you would hardly see a woman who would be ambitious about settling for man that isn't made. Nobody wants to suffer, so it is more attractive to women to be with a man who can be a man and provide. It isn't the concept of gold-digging, but a matter of preference for wanting to be taken care of. Men understand this, hence they strive to become.

A man may not have it all in the beginning, but he has to at least be a visionary, must indeed be a leader, and at least have dreams and be passionate about and continually driven to build his kingdom. That's something a woman could recognise and choose to be there in his humble beginnings regardless of what he may have at that time, and be a helpmate. And I think it's the real attraction that people miss the mark when they say, "Women are attracted to men that ignore them."

Being ignored is not something enjoyable. Rather, it's the illusion that "he must be focused and goal-driven, so it explains why he doesn't seem to pay me much attention." In the end, women appreciate attention and care. I think that a man who is able to have visions, knows what he's chasing after, is focused, and can still show care and attention to a deserving woman is the real deal. And such a man should have a woman that would carry his dreams with him, truly stand by him, respect and admire him.

And decisions are more critical for men. Considering the roles to play—hunter, provider, leader, protector—it's crucial they don't miss in their decision-making. It's always about finding the balance. And to do this more effectively, they have to always try to be stoics and be objective in their approach to life. It's always imperative for them. Accolades to the ones that strive to be men.

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