Talking about love languages, I remember talking to a friend the other day about them, and apparently, he didn’t know there was something called a love language. To say I was shocked was an understatement, but I later told myself, Elfreda, not everyone will have the knowledge of everything, heck I don’t even know about the existence of so many things.
I don’t think an individual can have just one love language, we are usually a combination of two or three, or even all as the case may be. Well out of the Five basic love languages, I think I tend to tilt more towards 3 of them: acts of service, words of affirmation, and quality time.
Acts of service
For me this is usually a turn-on for me, I feel so touched when someone goes out of their way to do something for me, something I didn’t ask for. Well, the thing is that the ordinary me will find it difficult to ask someone to do something for me, especially when I can handle it, I ask for help when it is necessary, and I must have thought so much about it before even considering asking. For instance, there was a day I needed a manual we usually use for our home-cell fellowship every Tuesday, I had forgotten to get it in church on Sunday, so I called a friend to ask if he had it and he said he did, so I told him that I would get it on my way back from work in order to make a copy for myself.
When I got home, I decided to go over to his place to get it, but before leaving the house, he called and asked me if I was home yet, that he was close to my house and had already made the copy. I felt so touched that day, because he really didn’t have to bring the manual to my house, and he had also gone to work like me, so he would have been exhausted, but he walked to my house and brought the manual for me. So, you see, like I said the littlest act of service from a friend or a loved one can really sway me.
Words of Affirmation
This is another one of my strongest love languages, I love someone who can say the right thing in situations. For instance, something happens to me that puts me down emotionally, and as a friend or lover I tell you about it, and you take it lightly, I don’t usually take it well. I would appreciate a person who can bring me up with their words and not someone who can use their words to tear down someone.
Quality Time
I appreciate this a lot, I enjoy spending quality time with those I love, even if we don’t have to do much, but the fact that I have someone I love and I’m comfortable with around is as enough as it can get.
There was a period when I had a partner who was always on the move and when he came back from his numerous travels, he didn’t even see the need to spend time with me, more like makeup for the time apart. I just kept disturbing myself as I wasn’t comfortable with it, at some point, I had to just end things for my sanity's sake. I want someone who will miss me when I’m not around and can’t wait to get to me whenever he or she has the opportunity. I always find time to reach out, both physically and emotionally to those I care about. So, yeah spending quality time with someone I’m in any form of relationship with, be it just friendship or a romantic relationship. Quality time is hugeeeee deal for me 💕
