MY LOVE LANGUAGE
I have had not more than 3 relationships so far though I am still a young, vibrant and exuberant young man. And my love language is proper communication. I am an enthusiastic talker. I talk with passion and energy. I enjoy conversations that make me reason especially when it has a little flavor of argument. When I say Communication, let us categorize it into chatting, phone calls, text messages and physical conversations. Communication is the foundation of any relationship. Among several love languages, communication takes the lead.
HOW HAS COMMUNICATION INFLUENCED MY RELATIONSHIP
It has influenced my Relationship such that it gives us the opportunity to know each other better. Aside from the conversation, we are able to observe each other's demeanor. Via Communication, we get to really understand each other's point of views. I can testify that due to Communication, I can make choices for my partner without fear for otherwise. It has influenced my Relationship such that it has built trust. If we can be completely open to one another, it builds the trust we have for one another.
WHEN I FELT LOVED AND APPRECIATED
The times I felt love and appreciated were when I had long conversations with my partner. Conversations that lasted till mid nights. It made me feel wanted, I felt am not alone, and it made me realize that my partner and I can spend long times together without getting bored. This made me feel really good. The direct opposite occurred some few months ago. It was a really trying time for us because my partner got busy as a result of school. It was funny how it felt I was really begging attention in a relationship. It can be annoying. The moment there is no proper, adequate and frequent Communication, it is an off for me. It's a run down. I prefer Communication to gifts, sex, partying, outing, and other love languages. Am not saying the others are excluded. But frequent communication is a light up for me.
HOW UNDERSTANDING MY LOVE LANGUAGE CAN AFFECT MY CONNECTION WITH MY PARTNER
When we misplace priorities, we definitely do not expect things to go down smoothly. In a situation where there is misplacement of priority, partners would have a different perspective of each other. What partners would be expecting will be different from what they get. When you understand your partners love language, such a relationship stands a higher chance to last long. This is because you would know what your partner wants, how they want it, when they want it and when it is not needed. The moment you cannot understand the Love language of your partner, such relationship is bound to be very short.
It is my personal opinion that as simple or insignificant many may think that Understanding ones partners love language can be, it does not stop it from being important. Whether we like it not, not every human being respond to love the same way. This is because of our individual difference and it is inevitable. But the main crux is that when you understand your partners love language, it is just like you have the keys to unlocking their hearts.
This is my entry on the weekly contest in @Hivenaija. The contest is still on going.
