Why are people like this?

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I have been so pissed off since two days ago because someone actually is trying to push me to the wall. I have been ranting and panting up and down in my room since then trying to understand why such would happen to me like that.

I have been disappointed twice, and shouldn't I have withdrawn at the first disappointment? No, I didn't. I thought such wouldn't happen again but it did. It left me concluding that some humans are just nuts; they would push you to the wall, taking advantage of your soft and gentle heart only because you don't talk or want to create a scene.

But this doesn't mean I am weak or stupid; I know myself and what I can do when it turns to something where I start to unleash the other side of me, but I don't want that. I don't want to be seen as the guilty one. I want to play it safe and wise.

People can be funny and, at the same time, cruel. They wait for you to react harshly, and then they hold that part against you, forgetting the good side you have always exhibited. They only remember that one time you released that craziness and forget the 99 times you have acted good. Such is life!

Last December, I was introduced to a guy who is into shoe-making. He makes and designs shoes from scratch, and I was told he is good in the business. I thought since he was someone from my church and also held a higher position and that someone close to me whom I love recommended him to me, I decided to trust and patronise him.

For the first work I gave to him, he disappointed me, but I didn't take it to heart as he later did the job well for me. I was satisfied only because the work was done neatly, though I noticed he was this nonchalant person who would slow your work and procrastinate until the deadline. Such was the experience with him.

As if that didn't teach me a lesson. I blindly gave him another work early this year, emphasising that he did the job early so I could go with it for my trip to Lagos. Oh, how I'd loved and wanted to go with the shoe, but he failed me again.

One thing about people like this is that some of them aren't loyal and truthful in their work. I made the complete payment, thinking my job would be done as soon as possible without delay. I felt so sad when I called a day before I travelled and he said I wouldn't get it. That was disappointing but I let it slide, hoping he would have finished it before I returned.

Alas! It was another shocking one when I returned after a week, called him and he started giving excuses. Why?

It's the second time again. I felt like someone who's been cheated and unfairly treated. This isn't like he was waiting for me to pay, I already did and only for him to jump on my work. Now, he's giving me silly excuses.

I've been soft and all I just did was to be patient while giving him more time. Two days later, which was yesterday, I called again, and he refused to pick up my calls, nor did he return to call back.

I really don't know why some people behave like this especially those with skills like this. They tell you they can do something only to discover they are lying. They wait for you to pay and then you start chasing them around with calls. To me, it's foolishness.

I have been disappointed twice and I won't let it happen the third time. Once I get my work, that's the end. He has lost a customer already. He has put a dent in his job and has sent a bad signal to me. I don't need anyone to tell me not to stop patronising him; I won't, and that's it.

I love people who are true to their words. I love it when people take their business seriously while satisfying their customers. I love it when someone can prove they are loyal and work to earn their trust. But if any of these is lacking, then, of what use is their work?


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I understand your pain and it also pains me when someone delays my work especially when I have made full payment.
It's better to stop patronizing such people, and that's how they loose customers without knowing what they did, tomorrow they will say it's their village people.

Awwww...my princess is pained... just send me the exact location of that lazy shoe maker and I will handle him with my new oraimo cord which I bought for that strong head vickoly 🤣

Indeed..some people with this kind of skills always disappoint...I really can't place it but it makes sense to always strive in satisfying ur customers
It's well dear...he lost u.. sadly

!LUV

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He has lost me oo. I can never patronise him again.

Some humans can just push you to the wall and expect your reaction. It's crazy that people will have businesses and skills yet joke with it. This is something that is putting food on your table. He have lost you as a customer already and you won't recommend such a person to another. See the damage he have done to his business.

I can't recommend anyone to him because of this. It pained me so much. I can't wait to get my shoe and then block him off completely.

It's well. I guess you paid complete because you didn't want money to delay the work or because you trusted him since he is from your church but the golden rule of dealing with handy men/women is to "never make full payment until you receive your work".
Thinking about their balance is enough to drive excuses and make them focus on finishing the work.

Yes, that's where I have learnt my lesson. Someone also advised I don't pay the complete money. Thank you 😊

If I submit my task to anyone and that person delay the task, I don't give that person second chance for it. I never feel sympathy for those people who don't keep words for no valid reason.

That is it. If one cannot keep to their words, it ruins their reputation.

Indeed but I don't care about their reputation as it has noting to do with me. Only thing matter is my summitted task.

You are right ✅️
One must be true to their words and stick to them. It's so simple.

This is so painful. I had same experience with a cobbler two months ago. He even had the guts to spit rubbish, that I shouted at him and would have called to inform him that morning that I would be coming to pick up my footwear.
In order to avoid more insults because he's very much mouthed, I kept mum and waited for him to finish the repairs. I collected it and left. I had planned on giving him more work, and even refer friends, but that's the end.

Can you see? He lost customers already and that's something they need to always consider in business.

This is really painful but your decision is solid.

Such persons never amount to anything and they are quick to blame other people for their misfortune.

Don't mind them. They don't think of the aftermath of their actions toward others especially their customers.

Abi oooo

I can relate to how you feel seat Princess, some handy work people are like that, after they start wondering why they never made it in their old age, forgetting that upholding a good reputation in whatever you do, no matter how small is your stepping stone to greatness.

Just forget the guy, let him do as he wishes, there, was a machine engineer who I paid to fix my sewing machine, instead, he took some parts of the machine saying he wanted to buy some things needed, it's been one month any I haven't laid eyes on him since then.

I just let go and found another diligent one, who worked on my machine pretty fast and it's working perfectly now, I gave him extra tip for the satisfaction gotten from his service 😂 and would recommend him, as for the other, I don't even pray to see him ever again.

We all have gotten doses of people like this 🤣🤣
It is well. They will keep losing customers if they continue like this.

It is really sad how some people do business, they don't know how to strategize their business to get more customer.

I see no reason why a client will give you work and have paid complete and you will not deliver the work. If another person now do it better and start getting more work jealousy and envy will come in.

Sorry dear I feel your pain😭😭

I understand your frustration. People are like this, they never understand the other person's reasons and always come with more trouble.
I hate it when people can't fulfill promises and make other's lives uncomfortable.