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It really took me a long while before I knew what genotype actually was or how it really affect marriage compatibility and one important requirement before you tie the knot, I think the first time I heard about blood group and genotype was when we did Genetics in ss2 or 3 but to be honest, I didn't even put my mind to it or didn't know it really matters, all those time I don't even know what my blood group and genotype was until 100 level when we were required to do blood test, all I know was I don't usually get sick and never been to the hospital to get drip, seems my immune system was that strong and after my first school test which majority of us were AA, I didn't even believe them because after taking my blood, they just put two things together and give me AA so I thought it was actually fake, just for paparazi kind of result.
Reality started drawing in when I had 2 neigbours in 300level who where sickle cell patients, A lady who rarely come out of her room and a guy who was in my flat, we do talk once in a while and he plays a lot so I really didn't notice, I always joke with him that why his he always thin and somehow fell like floating because to me he might be weighing 40kg and we will just laugh about it, until a day I entered his room and saw injections, he studied medicine and my guys told me he is SS so he do inject himself, I was like What!!! that is not possible, I was kind of scared on his behalf because I do heard stories that SS patients rarely stay long, so I just had to read more on it just to know whatsup, I think he was the only one in the family with SS because his brother and sister were ok.
It actually brought up some questions why do parent still go ahead when they know they are a sickle cell carrier or is love that enough to neglect future consequences knowing your child will be the one to suffer for it. I think this genotype compatibility is not really talked on or people are just neglecting it. Kudos to some religion bodies that make it compulsory for intending couples to check if they are fit medically before tying the knot. We are no more in the olden days system where parent just wed each other without taking note of this times and back then since they have little knowledge, they thought those SS child were Abiku (predestined to death) or it is a spiritual attack without knowing that their negligent is the main issue but we know better now. We just need to know that love is no more enough and this things need to be discuss as early as possible because you start falling in love too deep.
On my end here, I get to know your genotype and blood group some weeks after we start chatting because it is important to me and you won't even know how I will ask, I find out some people do try to hide it or find it offensive when asked or some think it is too early just to wave away such questions but playing a T & D question at times can give you the chance to pop up such questions, always work 99%, if you don't know where you belong to, it is best to know it now and if you guys aren't compatible medically, it is best to cut such relationship off even though it might not be that easy (heartbreak and all) but it is for the best than to be sorry at the end of the day.
