When the Boss is a Bully

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I always love an opportunity to rant! Let me tell you what my narcissistic boss did to me the other day.

First of all, I think it’s safe to say that my workplace environment is saddled with toxicity. And it all comes from my boss and her daughter; they both basically run the place.

I work at a hospital, and my boss, the owner of the hospital, is not the nicest person in the world. She is a nurse, but she stands in as the resident doctor in the hospital. She has a daughter who is an actual doctor and works there too.

My boss can be fun and kind when a high-caliber patient is around. But besides that, she is a pain to work with. It’s almost as if she doesn’t trust her own competence and ends up projecting her insecurities onto the staff.


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She has massive trust issues and constantly berates her staff for every single mistake, in front of other staff, patients, and really anybody present. She has done it to me and continues to do it. And the worst part is that she also makes mistakes constantly.

And it’s an awful situation to be in because if you do not notice her mistake on time, she will blame you for it, and all of a sudden it’s your fault. If you do recognize the error and proceed to correct her, she acts like you should have known she meant something else.

I have low-key been counting down to my last days there, but I digress. The other day, we had a meeting where she aired her grievances to us. She complained about things she had noticed and told us to do better.

She then got to a point where she invited us to chime in if we had anything to say. I used the opportunity to very respectfully express to her how uncomfortable it was whenever she chided us in front of patients and strangers.

Of course, she defended herself and said she never did that. She could agree that she used to do it before, but now she has “gotten her anger issues under control.”. I also brought up the fact that she didn’t always let us, the nurses, set IV lines on patients. Anytime an opportunity came for the nurses to set an IV line, she would always prefer her daughter to do it.

She only lets us do it when the patient we’re treating has some contractible disease.

Well, the meeting ended, and she said she would look into it. Fast forward to the very next morning. We had a patient show up that morning, and his treatment required us to set an IV line for him.

She let our head nurse set because, well, he had a contractible medical condition. As she was about to set it, I assessed the vein and felt confident enough to do it myself. I moved over to where she was and whispered, asking her for permission for me to set the line instead. Mind you, I had already told the head nurse too.

Tell me why this woman exploded into a blind rage, like a bomb waiting to be detonated. With the way she reacted, you would think I stabbed her in the eye. This lady went on degrading my competence and my time in school.

Mind you, I’d just graduated, and for some bizarre reason, she expected me to have graduated with the same experience as nurses who’d been in the field for more than ten years. It was almost as if she felt threatened by the fact that I studied nursing at a university and she didn’t.

I felt really confused because I thought our superiors were supposed to be one of our biggest advocates. Not in this case. She didn’t mind that a patient was literally seated in front of me. She went on and on and on until she was satisfied.

And I don’t think she even felt bad afterwards. It was almost like she reveled in the chance to embarrass me. To this day, no apology has been given.

It was very ironic, too, because we had just spoken about it the day before as well.

It is well…


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I totally get this. Worked with someone like that before and it’s so frustrating how you can never do right. It can only be that she’s projecting her own insecurities indeed

I am working with one right now, who doesn't see it as the wrong thing. the way he talks down to me at any given time. Most times I will just look at myself and tell myself, this is just a starting point, not your end

It is really demoralizing when the very people that are supposed to bring you up are the ones pushing you down. It is so unnecessary, like you've found your way up, shouldn't you focus on helping others?

Those kind of people are just insecure and jealous of something you have that they don'.

Most times I will just look at myself and tell myself, this is just a starting point, not your end

My dear, just look at this season as a period where you learn to be patient. Definitely it is not permanent, and you will eventually find a better opportunity. Till then, hang on tight and don't pay him any mind.

Thanks for sharing and engaging Christy🤗

You are welcome

We've got bosses like this at a point while trying to build a career for ourselves and it's very annoying. I had one like that who never takes blame and being his assistant was a big problem but I didn't have a choice.

I allowed him to abuse his power until he foolishly flexed them in front of his superior who got really pissed and punished him for that.

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Very frustrating people! They eventually get what they deserve.

Thanks for the warm comment George🤗