Most times, people look, envisage and imagine, while they see a man they look up to, someone they'd like to be like, deep down I know, I'm full of struggles, pain, setbacks, and problematic circumstances. However, I'm always grateful that whenever I set out, I create a disparate impression, different from my predicament, failings or shortcomings. Humans are impressionistic and at the same time we like to be all cloak and dagger.
Sometimes we're all just perfect in hiding our truth, simply because it's hardly relatable to people who would pretend that it's actually relatable to them. I like being the enigma, not because being an enigma is beautiful, but because, I have people who look up to me for inner strength to do the impossible and if they see me faltering, melting from unbearable challenges, it might make them feel that they're incapable, seeing how I've fallen at the slightest of provocations
This isn't to say it isn't good to let out our emotions when we're vulnerable, It's just that sometimes life inadvertently sets an impeccable standard for us.
we're meant to be the perfect examples, the ones looked up to for inspirations and when we fail, our failures becomes a ripple effect, creating a sour taste all around. Now, no one should be made to keep up with an impeccable standard that isn't set by us. In a bid to show people that the impossible can be possible, sometimes we lose ourselves, we fall from unimaginable heights trying to create an impression that no height in life is unconquerable.
Some things in life are unconquerable, but rather than tell people, that nothing is unconquerable, it's better to tell them that in every of their striving, there's a chance they might fail, but they can always try again and again. We must learn to unfit into these standards, because standards kills people rather than make them better.
Being youthful makes young people feel invincible, but as they age, they're hit with spanners to their wheels and this is when they begin to face the correctional consequences for their default mentalities. What aging has taught me is that, life can be generally purposeful when we sift our expectations to suit what is viable. One thing I've learned to do is to cut my expectations rather short and the major way I do this is to weigh myself, irrespective of how capable I feel about my endowment and specifications.
I try to look at the fact that I have flaws and undoings; one which might be putrid or repulsive and this particularly keeps me in check. One of the biggest expectations of people is money and love. A lot of young people crave riches and wealth and a handsome man or woman all in one. But they're exactly the opposite of what they want. People don't weigh their lives without bias, and this is where the problem begins.
A lot of people live in a self-concocted reality, a version of reality and this lifestyle is often infectious, to the younger generation, and it's become a norm. In life, while we shouldn't conform to unrealistic standards, it's important we work on our innate expectations, this way, reality become clearer rather than vague. Back to me, I try to create a minimal impression by leaving a justifiable expression. Most times, I try to show some of my darkest and weakest sides, not because I actually do not have areas where I shine brightest, but the reason I typically do this, is to create an external impression that I am not invincible.
This sense of balance gives me an outward sense of satisfaction, even in the simplest of endeavors of life. I try to talk to people about my challenges, my weaknesses and undoings rather than telling them where I'm strongest, this is because life requires us to have people who should come to terms with the darkest sides of us firstly.
At the end of the day, embracing your undesirable aspects in life, allows you to become a better judge of what and who you truly are. That said, standards can be mean, especially when they're not set by us, this is why we should set standards slightly within our reach, standards we can accomplish when we put in work in good proportion. When people are however expecting us to reach inhuman standards because we're serving as an example to them, it's important to remind them we bleed red blood.
This is why it's essential to remind people of how hard it's often difficult for us to wake up, find the motivation to even be, before we can externally motivate anyone. There shouldn't be a stage where people should keep a constant energy for a long period of time, let's accept the fact that we're breakable. Lastly, it's important to embody the things we want, sometimes we make a list of the things we want, and it becomes so unrealistic we begin to lose what we're supposed to be.
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My name is @Josediccus, a young Nigerian entrepreneur who is a Vlogger, A Psychologist, Poet, Sports Writer/Analyst & Personal Finance Coach. I'm using my contents as a process to create shared meaning as well as create expressions through which people on/off hive can relate. I believe content is a process to be enjoyed and relished and I'm up for any collaborations in my field stated above. Cheers
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