The question "Can a single tree make a forest?" resonates deeply in relationships. As I ponder this, I realize that communication and respect are the vital keys that hold any union together. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't agree with everything my husband says without hesitation. Why should I nod and say "okay" to everything, even if it's disastrous? Am I a dumb person? Blood runs through my veins too.
If I were in her shoes, I would want to air my opinion politely than simply agreeing to avoid conflict. Communication is essential in a relationship, and agreeing to everything might lead to resentment and misunderstandings. I would try to have an open conversation with my husband about why he feels this way and express my own feelings and perspectives. Finding a compromise or a way to communicate that respects both parties can help build a healthier relationship. Ultimately, it’s important to talk things through rather than suppressing one’s own feelings.
In marriage, we're told that two shall become one, according to the Bible. But this union doesn't mean losing individuality or sacrificing personal opinions. Both partners' voices must be heard in prayer, partnership, respect, tolerance, agreement communication, etc. I love families who do things together in agreement, not the other way around. Some women stopped working because their husbands said so without a valid point. Some women stopped being themselves because their husbands said NO. Some are lost in depression because their husbands say NO to all friends and family around them. Why should it be so?
I have been on this journey for ten years now and I can boldly say that any decision my husband makes without my consent always turns out to be disastrous because of the power of "two heads are better than one" He tried it thrice and he came back like a prodigal son to reveal to me what he did behind my back and he never tried it again. We must reason together that is, why we are one in the marriage.
However, not every discussion needs an answer for peace to reign, but I won't blindly agree with everything. I have the right to air my opinions, and we must disagree to agree because that's the law that binds two people together. Every discussion should bring clarity, not quarrels. Effective communication is the foundation of a successful marriage. And if the foundation is strongly built, it can not be shaken.
Some individuals are domineering in nature, prioritizing their ways over their partner's feelings. I have seen many of my loved ones fall into the hands of men who are so instructive and their kind of lifestyle was not what I wished for before getting married. As a woman, I won't agree to something against my will or feelings. Interestingly, men often don't want a "yes-woman." They desire a partner with a voice, someone who can contribute to decision-making and growth, not a dummy student 👌
If I blindly agree to everything my husband says, then, there are problems somewhere that will steal my joy away, resentment will set in and I will begin to nurture low self-esteem. Why don't we as a couple find a balance in our agreement and disagreement instead of setting rules of "YOU MUST NOT SAY ANYTHING"
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Thank you #ladiesofhive and @ifarmgirl for a topic like this. Good job👍
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