Looking back to how this year started and looking at it now, I can only be grateful for everything because it hasn’t all been going as planned but the good thing is, I still see improvements and growth. I literally struggled with myself at the beginning of this year to accept some changes that were coming and the truth is, I couldn’t accept some but I changed some things anyways. It reminds me once again of how much some humans hate changes.
Just imagine having a favorite place you like to sit down and let’s say an usher tells you to sit somewhere else, trust me, if you don’t have an open mind, you will find that rather disturbing because that is a great change that person is trying to make you experience. Even in something this little, some people can go an extra length of leaving that place completely because they just can’t bring themselves to accept that change.
But do you know what is even more interesting? Change is going to come no matter how much you run from it. It might not be from you but from those around you and that will automatically cause you to also change in some ways that you thought you wouldn’t. In as much as we as humans struggle with the idea of change, that doesn’t mean we don’t change, we do but most times we do it nonchalantly because we are not even sure we are changing, hehe.
As a person, I don’t need anyone to tell me that I have some perspective of things that needs some adjustments and even transformation. I know these things but then, when I see anyone trying to ask me to change these things, I try to play smart by asking some rhetorical questions that will make them lose interest in persuading me but then, I know the truth, hehe.
I struggled with the habit of not doing things when I should do them (I still do), and for years, when people tell me to do better, I try to give an excuse that I’m not good at that thing but that was not true at all. I was just trying to justify my actions but then, I know myself and fortunately for me, I know when I’m not doing something right even though other times I try to justify myself. After doing that for years, one day, I sat myself down and reminisced on my actions and all the corrections people have tried to get to me and at that point, I told myself I should change some things and that was how I started.
It’s sad that it took me a long time to finally accept that I’m wrong and do better but then, I’m happy that I was fortunate enough to see my wrong and try to change them. Trust me, it was one of those hardest times for me. Somedays I ask myself why I was even putting effort into changing. I mean, if these people don’t like me the way I am then they should go away. Well, that’s actually the easiest way but the truth is, these days, it’s hard to find people that tell us the truth because they don’t want to hurt us and one more thing, “no one is perfect”. Thanks to that statement, most times we just let things slide because we know we also have things we don’t do right.
So, having anyone that takes the extra step to make you see a reason to change something about yourself for your good, is hard and that is why I can’t tell them to just let me be. It hurts to be corrected but I know that it is for my own good and I will realize that in the end. Let’s learn to appreciate those who correct us. It’s not going to be sweet to your ears but with time you will be appreciative of what they have done for you. There are definitely times when you shouldn’t accept some corrections especially when they go against God.
Just know that we all have something that needs fixing and since we are not sure about all of them, it is wise to be open to corrections from those who see us. Also, know that change is not easy, it will cost you a lot at some point but mind you, this also applies to any kind of changes whether good or bad. A wise man once said (Proverbs 9:8-9) - "Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you; rebuke the wise and they will love you. Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still; teach the righteous and they will add to their learning."
Also, he said something that gets the whole message across. He said that to those who are wise, when you correct them they are impressed but when you correct a fool, the person thinks that you don’t have respect for them. They see it as you giving them hundreds of lashes. So ask yourself today, which category are you in? I have been in both categories and I can relate very well, hehe.
Thanks for reading through. ❤️
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