BEING THE BEST PARTNER WITH INTENTIONAL CHOICES.

Hello Hivers!

I hope you are doing great. This is my first blog post in the Inner Blocks Community and I am glad to share with you my content about love, and relationships for a better love life experience.

Find someone who makes reality better than dreams and do your best to deserve them. — Shane Parrish

We are in the season of love but I would say that love has no season because it needs to be expressed and felt each day of our lives. Love is not spoken, it should be expressed and felt. Although we have those sweet lines that we say to that special person whom we claim to be in love with, they should spring out from the depth of true affection.

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We all desire to have the best partner in our love life but have we asked ourselves how we can be the best partner for the other (the better half)? It's a two-way contribution to a healthy, happy and lasting relationship. At times we fail to realise it.

The truth is that to have the best partner, we need to be at our best. We need to groom ourselves in all aspects of our lives and nurture our minds.

I would love to start by saying that the best way to begin a relationship, a healthy and lasting one is to begin with friendship. Friendship is a type of relationship that opens our minds to accept each other the way we are. It creates room to correct with love and respect and support each other.

Nurture Your Mind

Being the best partner involves making intentional decisions and choices. Each day I look at myself and desire to be at least 1% better than I was the previous day, reflecting on how to become better in areas of my life, spiritually, physically, emotionally, socially, financially, and mentally. These are the areas that guide our lives.

At times, it feels like some people run away from being the best partner. What I mean is that they picture all the responsibilities, the commitment, unconditional love, and total trust, unforeseen drama and they are like, "Can I handle this?" They long to have the best partner but they are not sure to be the best for the one they seek. They want to try but they are scared.

I remember when I thought I would not give love another chance after my previous relationship that lasted for 5 years and 6 months and left me heartbroken, but I worked on my mind. I told myself that it was just one person who treated me that way and not all men. I knew that to attract the best to myself, I needed to open my heart again, groom my mind and my thoughts and allow the best to flow towards me.

Knowing that there is no perfect human being, opens us to receiving the perfect imperfection, building the relationship we desire, and being intentional about changing our flaws for a better experience in our love life.

Love Genuinely And Trust

The secret is to LOVE YOURSELF. You can't give what you don't have. I love to love and support my partner. It is only natural that when you are genuine about something, love will lead. It could be difficult to trust someone completely but when you know that there has to be this one person who you need to be part of your life, you will be open to love and trust the person completely to share every journey of your life with. Caring for myself, my health, my appearance and everything about myself will naturally flow towards my partner.

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Flavours and Spice

Love naturally creates in your mind those ideas to add flavour and spice up your love life. No one wants to live a boring life and have a boring love life. In that case, I have some ideas for you. At times I create an atmosphere in my mind with a sweet fragrance that suits the atmosphere of a time alone with my partner. Some of these ideas are playing games, lighting scented candles with blue lights on, watching movies, cooking together, working together, holding hands while taking a stroll or an evening walk to enjoy the natural breeze, sitting out in a beautiful garden, going on picnics and fun sites. I would not forget to mention that having a great sense of humour is a great flavour to improve our love life and give our best.

Good Listener And Problem Solver

This cannot be skipped. We want to be heard but we also need to understand that we need to be a good listener, to be ready to listen to our partner to all that needs to be said. Also, we need to be highly observant to know when our partner is not in a happy mood and proffer a solution for whatever the problem is and be supportive in down times.

Gratitude and Forgiveness

Gratitude is like a door that opens other good doors. Practising gratitude has to be a daily thing, appreciating our partners in their efforts towards building the relationship and for their support. We also need to be open to forgive genuinely. Somehow, gratitude and forgiveness has become part of me, I have come to realise that it opens more beautiful doors in my life.

Practise gratitude and learn to forgive.

Quality Time

Spending quality time creates an avenue to learn your partner better and strengthen the relationship.

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This is my response to the prompt for the Thinker's Corner Contest February edition initiated by @kenechukwu97

How do I make myself the best partner for my significant other?

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