I remember an instance of my childhood when my Dad scolded a comic seller inside a train because he put his hand on my cousin sister knee. At that moment of time, for me it was a normal thing. The seller boy of 13-14 years of age was trying to show some of his comics to her while trying to take support on her knee. He was trying to convince her to buy the comics and may be unintentionally put his hand on her knee. that was only my assumption
I was too young to understsnd any other intention of that guy and same goes to my cousin sister who is also of my age. My Dad might sensed something wrong with that act of the boy and scolded him for indecent behaviours. Might be my Dad was right doing so because of his experince and maturity at that time. I was unable to differentiate what was wrong and what is right at that tender age. Now as I grown up, and saw a little bit of life, I can sense similar indecent things at many places.
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Such incident may happen to many especially to the girls of any age, but people unable to justify it or unable to raise a voice against such mischievous act.
Plight of a women.
A Women is unsafe everywhere. Earlier I thought it to be an indian issue but now i see it everywhere. The current attack on Israel saw how many of the women were captured. They are alwsys been a a soft target when it comes to exploitation. There are many instances where they were gropeled in the crowd, they were touched indiscretelly, they were harassed in public. But other people remain mute or confused to raise a voice or not.
To raise or not to raise?
What always confuses people is to raise the voice against such misconduct or should wait for the victim to say something. What if the possible victim is OK with that kind of touching and does not feel bad. Definately if any kind of voice raised from her other people also supports her but what if she hesitate to raise the voice. Should the other person who is watching the misconduct raise the voice on her behalf? But what if the girls turns away? There are many scenario which restrict a person to raise the voice against such incident. Many people might enjoy watching the misconduct on others or tempt to do similar things.
Everything boiled down to this
Recently, while travelling back to my native home in a crowded train compartment. I saw a spoiled girls, she was like hippie, accompanying a boy and behaving very rudly. She had argument with fellow passenger as she was listening songs on mobile speaker causing problem to other. I personally hate these kind of women behaviour. Now when she slept on the upper seat, another boy sitting on the adjacent seat moved his leg on her seat in sitting posture and was trying to touch her.
At first I unnoticed it, considering it was an unintentional move from the boy. But soon it getd regular and the boy was trying to rub his leg on her thghs. It happened twice and thrice. But the girl remain unmoved with that kind of touching, as she didn't felt anything. It was not a soft touch for sure. What I noticed that it was a hard press and anyone could wake up with such touching, especially if it was done near your thighs. The girls ignored it may be she was fast asleep.
Finding no response from the girls, I was confused for a moment to raise the alarm or not. Such spoiled brat are generally habitual to such things. Firstly I thought to inform the boy accompanying her, but again I thought he may turn it down.
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Finally, I made a soft eye contact with that boy. He might understood me and remove his leg instantly. To make sure he does not do that again, I kept looking at that guy from time to time. Neither i raised voice nor told anyone. But what amazes me is the girl reaction she kept it unnoticed. You cannot say anything with such spoiled brat. But the incident made me confuse a bit, if I did the right things or should I let it happen.?
A little later, as passenger were jostled towards the gate for getting down at a station, again I noticed another guy standing trying to rub his hand against a passing lady (u know what I mean) and pretending it to be unintentional. Such things is very common at crowded place. Many people does such indecent at public places and pretends to be unknown. Such act may expect from person of any age even from an old man.
How to react?
This time I could not do anything as I was bit far away. Neither the girl reacted This made me wondering, what could be the right way to react in such situation? Are the girls getting habitual to such situation that now they started to ignore them, or they are OK? Or what they actually think experiencing such stuation?
Is it OK for other person to raise a voice in public seeing such misconduct even noticing no response from girl?
I am feeling pity for such narrow minded mens, who try to exploit a women in such way.
Looking forward to see #opinion and #feedback from the community to react better next time if ever comes across such incident.