There is a powerful quote that says, "It’s so empowering to say, ‘This isn’t serving me,’ and walk away in peace."
Taking bearing from the quote, I will say that whatever relationship or partnership doesn’t seem to be productive should be discarded in a peaceful accord. One shouldn't be forced to keep a relationship that is dead on arrival. Some relationships don't want someone to sacrifice.
Likewise, our past is considered a necessary evil we shouldn't forget as against what many have hovered as being bad to remember since they believe it might have long-term effects on the present by affecting the future most especially when it comes to relationships.
We see the two in a relationship who always shy from their past that is, finding it difficult to open up to their partner with the mind of being rejected or causing a fuss which might mar such a relationship. So instead of confiding in their partner, they rather hide it with the hope of securing a better future without knowing that their past could turn into a ghost and haunt them in the future. You should know that a relationship or partnership that is built on falsehood is bound to collapse at any point in time. You should say that you have a horrible experience and hide it from the person you claim you love or want a relationship with without minding if such an experience might cause your partner pain in the end.
A couple of years ago, i could still remember my first relationship vividly. The guy was cute, i must say. We started on a happy note. However, i realised this guy had many secrets that he wasn't willing to open up. At first, I played along with the hope that he would still open up to me later as time went on since we barely knew each other, but i was wrong. He lied about everything but only his name. He had a girlfriend he was seeing secretly. He told him that he had ended his relationship with her a long time ago. I later found out the said lady is pregnant for him. I confronted him, but only for him to tell me that the lady was trying to pin the pregnancy on him. About two weeks later, i had the privilege to meet with the said lady. The lady confided in me that the guy is con master. She said he practically lied to her about his job, his family, and the fact that he was a graduate where he was rusticated.
I had to ask the lady where the guy got the car he was driving if he had no job, as she claimed. I was dumbfounded when she told me the car belonged to her as he was only using it to carry a different set of ladies.
I was devastated about the news, but the good thing was that we had no chemistry. I had to end to a relationship and move on. Although it wasn't as easy as I was deceived right from the onset. He later came to apologize that he didn't love the lady but loved me instead that he was only with her because she was financially stable and her parents were also wealthy.
