Understand one thing well! According to Sharia law, neither a wife can keep any of her relatives in the house without the husband's permission. And neither can a husband keep any of his relatives in his house without the wife's permission.
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If your wife's privacy is being intruded on in any way, then the husband cannot keep any of his relatives in the house without the wife's permission. Parents will live together, but parents will live together in such a case that your wife has a completely separate room and there is a regular arrangement for this so that your parents cannot interfere with her privacy by force.
Parents can also live with their daughter-in-law in such a case that the parents do not torture their daughter-in-law unnecessarily. If the husband realizes that I have given my wife a separate room in the house, despite this, my mother repeatedly gives tension to my wife, then it is necessary for the husband to keep your wife separate from your mother.
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Because when a woman gets married, she does not come to take tension, she comes to enjoy life. Allah has made marriage for happiness. Allah has not made marriage for tensions.
The problem is actually that the wife should be kept in a separate house and the parents should be kept in a separate house. The benefits of a joint family are many. The blessings that come from living together are not obtained by living apart. But remember that there are some principles for living together too. The heart has to be enlarged, tolerance has to be developed. And this tolerance is running short in the market these days.
Therefore, we advise people these days that when you get married, bring your wife to a separate house. Do not bring her to your parents' house. I always advise people to arrange a separate house before marriage and then get married.
Then sometimes bring the mother and father to meet the daughter-in-law and sometimes take the daughter-in-law to meet the mother and father and place your hand on the head of your wife.
The parents are angry that we have nurtured the child and made him grow up and our son has separated from us. Oh well, he will not be separated until the Day of Judgment. He will come every day and meet you and will also serve you. If everyone lived together, we would all live where Hazrat Adam (peace be upon him) and Amma Eve lived. Now, I don't know where they came to the world. But Allah filled the whole world. That is why it is full that they got married and separated. If they had been living in their house, how big a bungalow Hazrat Adam (peace be upon him) would have had today.
So, my brother Afzal, it is better that if you want to avoid corruption, arrange a separate house first and get married later. In this, if your parents insult you out of respect, then respect them with all your heart, but later when you fight, it is better to tolerate a little insult and separate than to be insulted out of respect at that time.
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Yes, if you have a very good family with high morals, your mother is very tolerant, a very loving mother, a good mother who considers her daughter-in-law more dear than her own daughters, and if you find a daughter-in-law who keeps her tongue tied, then you should stay together. The blessings of staying together are many.
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