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Breakup can be extremely sad and difficult to handle, be it a relationship that lasted for just a short time or years of relationship. It is not one of the easiest things in the world to let go of someone whom you have spent a significant amount of time together. The feelings of anger and sadness among others can make it hard to forget about the other person even if the two of you decided to split for the betterment of both parties.
The next phase after a breakup is even more hard especially when the thoughts of the other person keeps popping in your head or when you peep into their social media to see what they have been up to after the two of you broke up. What is more difficult for most people in this phase is to break every form of communication (direct or indirect). It's important for someone who wants their heart to heal as fast as possible to cut every form of contact with the other person - even though it can be very difficult.
I have been an advocate for this for a while and it has put me into some intense argument on several times either with friends or colleagues at work whenever the topic pops up. I'm of the school of thought that when you break up with someone you should cease to establish any form of contact with them for your own sanity. This doesn't mean that you are keeping grudges with them and it doesn't make them your enemy. It's just you creating and respecting boundaries. You may be shooting yourself in the foot when you still call, text or see your ex. What exactly would you be talking about?
In actual fact, it may be unavoidable to totally forget about them but you'd be easing your recovery phase by halting every forms of connection or contacts. One reason it is vital to stop every forms of direct or indirect communication is that the two of you may begin to develop feelings once again and make your hearts to ignore all the red flags, believing that you were not suppose to break up at first. If you fail to block every form of contact between your ex you'd be depriving your heart the chance to come to terms that the relationship came to and end for a reason. Not only that you'd not be mentally ready to give someone else a chance (when you're fully healed) because you're still seeing your ex.
However, it may also be difficult to totally stop any form of contact with your ex if for instance you work in the same company. I guess this is one of the reasons it is in most companies policies that employees must not date each other. Apart from the fact that it will not make moving on easy, it will also affect the productivity at work. Another instance is when a couple who have kids get a divorce - it may be impossible to completely lose contact. However, the contact can be reduced to it's barest minimum to give room for both parties to breathe.
This is a very controversial topic. There are different windows in which different people see this topic. In all of this, one isn't compelled on what to do. Every person can choose what they feel works well for them.
Thanks for your time.