If you look up the types of friendships there are, you might be surprised to see how many are clearly identified and categorized. Both the good kind and the bad ones. I was. Surprised, I mean.
I understood a long time ago there are two kinds of friends that probably transcend the classical categories you'll find at a quick search.
The good times friends are the ones that are great to have around in casual meetings, vacations, parties, they may seem supportive in your personal goals, but when things become challenging and you really need their help, count them out.
As long as you understand the limits of their "light" friendship, you will probably be ok.
The problem is these limits are rarely known until they are tested. And that means you are going through a very tough time and they don't come through for you. Which, depending on the level of expectation you had from them, can really hurt you, to the point you might not get over it, and would break the friendship, as "light" as it was.
The curious part is that to them it will look like you are blowing things out of proportions because they never offered you a bad times friendship.
Conversely, a bad times friend will be there for you through the hardest times. You may be surprised at first to see who is truly a bad times friend and who isn't. Sometimes a bad times friend is not necessarily the funniest to be around or someone you'd prefer to go on vacation with, but they come through when you need them the most.
If you are lucky to have one or more friends that are both for good and bad times, that's fantastic! Otherwise you might need to see who is who and depend on each of them for the appropriate situation.
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