How To Love Better

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Note that this is not a cheat sheet in getting the people you love to stay with you forever. After all we are humans. Nothing ever satisfies us. But maybe after reading this, it helps you to become a better person than you were before.


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When with the one you love, take the long way home. Try to enjoy the scenery with them. Sunsets. Sunrise. Dance under the rain. Catch snowflakes in your hands. Feel the warmth of the sun coursing through your skin. Feel the grains of sand beneath your feet. Appreciate the beauty of nature together. With them, nature takes on more wondrous beauty. Without then, everything is just mundane.

Take note of what makes them laugh. If you must, be a comedian. Just to hear the melodious sound that is their laughter. In whatever you do, do not let them lose their smile.

Everything cannot always be about you. Know when it's about them. Learn to differentiate the situation. Do not be dismissive or quick to compare. Know when to listen.

Ask them to keep you updated about their location. When they are at home or at work or have arrived at a certain destination. If anything, it should make them feel safer because you always know where they are.

Admit your mistakes. Don't always go on the defensive. Learn to apologize. If they say you hurt them, you shouldn't try to explain why you did so or justify your actions. Admit your mistakes, apologize and never forget to ask what you can do to make things better.

Be infinitely curious about how they live their days. Be interested in their interests, preferences, likes and dislikes. Live their days with them. Try to imagine and see the world through their eyes. Ask them questions.

Set boundaries, physically, emotionally, mentally. They are not always going to know what's best for you and you aren't always going to know what's best for them. Embrace that fact.

Know when to speak. Let them have the last word even if you're really pissed. Do not speak if your motive is revenge. When you argue, do not speak with the intention of hurting them. Words like that are not easily forgiven, or forgotten.

Throw away the scorecard. Do not keep tallies or entries of how many times they have committed mistakes or hurt you. It causes more harm to you than to them when you are always thinking about or trying to come up with instances where they might have disappointed you. Practice trust, even when it's scary. Especially when it's scary.

Take time apart. Accept that they are individuals and your paths are not always merged. Allow them to explore their identities and a world outside the bubble you both might have created for yourself. Be ready to experience a thousand shades of them. But never forget to hold space for them.

Always play. Play might seem silly. But play. Dance in the kitchen. Play hide-and-seek while shopping. Go for games. Send memes to each other. Have inside jokes. Preserve the inner-child. Never lose the spark.

Take note of the little things. Know that the little things always matter. Little acts of kindness are always remembered. Hold the door for them. Hold their hands. Notice their small special features. Offer your arm to them. Kiss them like you mean it_because you mean it. Make room for them on the couch. Save them a seat. Point out cracks on the road, so they don't fall.

Offer them your world.

Know what is worth fighting for and what's not. Know when you let things go and know when to hang on like it's your last breath.


If you have more tips on how you can love better, i would love to hear your thoughts and see your comments.

Thanks for reading.✨