Quit Saying, "That's Just Who I Am."

Quit with the saying of “That's Just Who I Am”. One of the most disempowering things you can do is to tell yourself that you are only a certain way and that there's nothing you can do to change it. This kind of thinking comes from a fixed mindset, more like close mindedness and this is one of the biggest obstacles of success. People with closed minds believe that their abilities and traits are set in stone. They think that they're either born with certain talents or not and that sort of thinking limits and prevents them from reaching their full potential. It is restrictive and it enormously affects their ability to develop and grow as an individual. When you believe that you can't change, you become stuck in your ways and unable to move forward.

Your identity is not rigid. It can be ever changing and flexible. We are not set in stone or metal. We can evolve differently and still be happy. Sometimes, you wonder why there's no excitement or why your life is not different and that's maybe because you refuse to think differently, you refuse to be permeable or evolve.

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“You say you don't know anyone at the party, so you won't go. You have been heartbroken, so you won't love. You say you don't like beans, so you won't eat it.” All these are your choices, of course but you need to know that your personality is not set in stone. You might see yourself as someone who can't read or write or cook or play an instrument or be happy but the lucky thing is that it is not ingrained. You just see yourself that way. It's not your identity. It's only a choice. You can choose to change this choice and learn how to read or write or whatever you set out to do.

Break up with faulty patterns of thinking, reacting and behaving that is holding you back. Learn to do something different. Break out of your daily routine. Free up your schedule and fit something out of the box into this space. Learn something new, play something new, talk to someone who is not your friend or acquaintance. Think of a hobby that you have never tried before. Step out of your comfort zone sometimes and just try something new. You will come to discover that your identity is way deeper than all the details on the surface and all these details are just preferences and choices and you can change them anytime you like. If it is essential for you to start all over again in creating a new identity, then by all means, do so. Your identity is permeable, not rigid.