Since we were kids, our parents always told us we had to share most of our things with others, help our friends, if you come from a catholic family you are used to always helping other people and not only for your benefit. This is a great way of living. If everybody acts like that the world would probably be a better place, but the fact is reality has changed that perception we want to have.
After growing up we understand there are good and bad things around us, we realize everything is not like what we watched in the cartoons, that justice isn’t present most of the time, and a large etcetera. The phrase ”the stronger prevaled from the weak” becomes a reality and we have to be used to it. But we start living and understand this when we grow up.
Humans are interested beings
Most of the time we don’t recognize it, but since we were kids, we even make friends that fits our interests, for example, we select someone to be our friend because we live near each other, he/she give good advice, or have a car, or even because is the only person we can talk to. The point is that it fits my interests and that’s why I choose him/her to be my friend.
The same is with work proposals, or our intentions to study for a college career, despite whether we like it or not, money is the great part of the incentive of why we are willing to do it.
People like to say that money isn’t everything, and probably they are right, but it is at least 70% of everything in your life. With money you can pay your bills, healthcare, food, basic needs, travel… Basically enjoy life! But is it true that after a while you can get bored, and is something more probable to happen if you don’t have people to share with, because What is money for if you can’t share it with your family and friends?
Being selfish to reach your goals is something that we most do if we want something, nobody will fight for us for the things we want, we can find people on the road that can give us a hand, but the truth is that no one cares about what we do more than us, everyone have their own wishes and their own goals to achieve, being a “nice person” open the door for people to hurt you, and most of the time you have to learn that from the hard way, it isn’t nice, but it will make you stronger.
Money, Contacts, “Friends”
Powerful people rule the world, contacts sometimes will help us reach higher ranks, connections with local businesses, and at the same time will make us earn money in the future. Besides our knowledge and skills, it is important to have connections, reach people that give us benefits and they benefit from us at the same time. It doesn’t need to be something bad! Being sociable is something not everyone is good at, for businesses is a great skill to explode, making us a valuable asset for them.
By knowing what you want and fighting for it, people around you will notice, and they will want that kind of energy near them. People always ridge with interest, and if you are benefiting them with your energy, they will want to benefit you in other ways, until you get your own network of contacts.
But we always have to keep in mind, when money is involved nobody is your friend, that's why most of the people don’t like the rich, because the first thing it comes to their mind is someone hypocrite and selfish, just maintaining people around him just by their interests, and probably many people are like that, but it’s a political game you have to play to reach higher positions.
At the end nothing makes you better than anyone, we all have our Dark Side, and it is most hypocritical to not accept it, there are people who like to show it more than others, but the truth is that all humans have it, so the best option is to raise our child's by showing them the truth of the society instead of telling them fantasies. If I had been told everything I would go through once I was able to see how the world is, it would have been easier to process it and go through it without ”surprises”
Is it bad to be selfish? I think it’s not, it’s the best way to be notice and reach our goals