Well some people do not believe in the concept of marriage. But from the land that I come from and where I live, this is one of the most important ritual for a man and woman to come together and live their lives. The concept of live-in relationship is not very widely accepted in India and absolutely No in the middle east.
In our culture as soon as the girl gets to an age of 22 to 23 parents start worrying about their marriage. If a girl is 30 and still not married then that becomes a matter of big concern for the parents. Family member would start asking them, is everything ok with the girl, why is she not getting married and such questions keep popping up. At every occasion the girl will be confronted with the same question from family and friends, when is she getting married. It is not the same case with the man.
I personally believe that there is no right or wrong age for marriage, but yes not that the marriage should happen at very young age also. I got married at a very early age of 21. Mine was a love marriage and me and my hubby mutually decided to get married early. I am very happy with this decision, we have kind of grown together and build ourselves right from scratch together. But yes, I did face a lot of challenges with this decision. I had completed my studies and just got my first job and got married. It was difficult for the first few years to manage family life and the job.
That is the time when you are settling up and building your career and then along with that if you have additional family responsibilities it gets difficult to meet all expectations. Specially if you live in joint families then it becomes all the more difficult. Your in-laws will always have some expectations from you, if you are not able to fulfill then it becomes a matter of concern. If you are living separate then that also is a challenge because managing everything job and home is a big responsibility.
The other part, that it is a very young age, you are not matured enough to make many life decisions, you are still in that playful and carefree mood and then if you are bombarded with responsibilities you feel drained out. Getting married at an early age for me, I did not have much concern with my in-laws, they were very supportive at all times, but my mother-in-law always treated me like a small child. She would feel that I was not capable of making decisions and I had less sense of life. Over the time even when I was 30 - 35 she had the same ideas for me. She could not accept that I was matured enough to not be under her influence and I had my own opinions. Over that we started building differences and that was not a good picture.
I feel that the ideal age for marriage for a girl is 26 to 28 years and for a man is 30 to 32. By this time, you are somewhat settled in your career, you have made some savings and you have also matured to make critical decisions of life. Getting married at a very late age also is not a good idea. This is my personal opinion. As you age up you have set your life in certain ways and then to have someone in your space becomes challenging to start adapting to some new ways. If two people come together and start living their lives together there will be some adjustments needed from both the partners. The later it happens the adjustments get difficult.
So what do you feel? What is the ideal age for Marriage?
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