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"....with full rage he threw a heavy jab at him towards his stomach. Young man 'A' is now on a bent kneel breathing heavily and grasping for air. His face is all swollen and could barely see. Young man 'B' being held by few other men broke loose violently, grabs a wooden rod few meters away from him and headed towards 'A'.
Everyone at the scene, at this point, were scared for their lives with the look on 'A's face. No one could stop him. 'A' dashed out at 'B' to hit him with the wooden rod, 'B' met him with a clenched fist to the head. 'A', staggered backward, with a shocking look on his face, blinks for few seconds, then collapsed. The scenery took a new atmosphere. All the brawling stopped. No one wants to go closer. 'B' crawled towards a wrecked car, he could barely stand up. There's no sign of any help soon from force men, even the traffic wardens were afraid to go near.
This was a scene I watched happening in a traffic congestion from my taxi. The traffic jam was caused by two young drivers. One lying lifeless and the other totally bruised on the face, a fight over their wrecked cars.
If only both drivers could have expressed themselves constructively with respect bearing in mind the consequences of their actions on themselves and their loved ones, this losses would have been averted.
Anger is one of the negative feelings I dread so much because of the various chaos and mischiefs it comes with. Anger is normal and can be healthy at some point. It could be a tool for being heard and making people know how you want to be treated. But when used out of control, anger could be destructive and regrettable.
Personally, I was mostly used to the destructive part of anger when I was growing up. I could say immaturity, in most cases, is the cause of the negative occurrences that comes with anger. Another reason I dread the anger emotion is that when I get angry, in some cases, I feel light and shaky. In other cases, I feel vengeful, hard muscles and willful. The results after all all these, for me, are pains, regrets, exhaustion, wounds from fights and the worst of all is unrest (lack of peace).
I have never made a right decision from being angry in most of the cases. It always ends with a regret and unrest. And that's the major reason I avoid negative emotions and situations that can trigger such emotions.
Does one then need to concede to all faults just to avoid the mishaps associated with anger?
Anger is a valid emotion. Living with people can be so challenging than living with animals. People in or outside our circles can hurt us or damage our properties and It is okay to feel bad, demand an apology or replacement. But what if the offender isn't apologetic, resentful or feels they are not wrong? That's the LINE, where you decide to be constructive or destructive.
I feel self respect and courtesy is underrated in our societies today. For one reason or the other, people don't show empathy or care about how their fellow humans feel. Or think about the consequences of their actions on them, their loved ones or the other party. Truth is, just few of us have this kind of thoughts in angry situation.
People can be difficult and not willing to reason they way you do. In times like this, we could either let it slide if perhaps the cost of damages are quite insignificant, keep such people at arms length to avoid such occurrence again(if they are in our social circle) or involve a higher authority, sue for damages. That is what being CIVIL is all about. It's worthy to note that different environments require different approaches. It is important to always talk about the incident avoiding name callings and disrespect words.
However, to some extent, poor parenting could make people unable to manage or express their discontentment and anger. Teaching kids to be respectful and courteous would help raise civilized citizens. Exposing them to replacement techniques whereby they are thought to do other activities when provoke could help them learn to manage their anger issues on time.
We can be angry healthily and still pass the right message without hurting ourselves. Every life is precious.
Thanks for reading.
