I read somewhere some time ago that the word “friEND” ends with an “END,” but the word “family” ends with “ILY,” which means “I Love You.” So, in summary, it means that no matter how long your relationship with a friend might be, even if it’s from childhood until adulthood, one day there will come a time when there will be an end to the friendship.
The end might not be a permanent one. But for some reason, you might find other friends worth more than the older ones or it happens the same way on their end. But when it comes to family there is no end to the relationship. No matter how bad the situation is. You can find a family elsewhere.
This is one of the biggest and loveliest things being around your family. Though at times there might be no true connection between some of the family members they are still one's family.
I came from a monogamous home. Just myself, my siblings, and my parents. I don't know why but people have choices to make about their family and how they want it to be. Some people, tend to misunderstand others, compare their experiences and that of others, then use those instances to judge and justify their own way of life.
Anyways, most times people get to learn from experience. But those instances shouldn’t be what will define us. They shouldn’t be what would tell us who we are. I have friends that come from a polygamous home and they already have the mindset that they will never get into polygamy in their lifetime or make a family with one.
Thereby I have seen families, polygamous families. They are always so happy on the outside and even when you get closer to their family you will also find out the happiness is from within. A home with three wives and they are all happy and fine. So?! Should that define what a polygamous home would look like?
And also there are countless monogamous homes that don't smell peace for once. An elder I know was giving me advice some time ago, and he was strictly advising me to try to marry a mother and a wife and not just a woman to fulfill my desires. He has been in a toxic marriage despite just having one wife, he hardly got happiness as a reward, and it was so hard for him to encounter peace of mind. And he has been regretting it.
So anyone who saw that as a case study might think every marriage might be that way once one has a monogamous marriage life. But No. it just happens to be that way for that person. You have your own life to live and you know the type of family that suits you well.
If you are wealthy enough and know you are strong enough to handle a polygamous family nothing is stopping you. That doesn’t mean all generations to come must embrace such. And coming from a monogamous home doesn’t mean you have to remain in such.
In conclusion
I am happy with the family I came from. I am always a proud member of my family and I hope I can continue to uplift such legacy down to generations to come. It's not easy at times to be a family man. But in life, we don't have a choice.
If I am to have an immediate family. I don't mind what the nature of the family might be. All I want and am working towards is to have a family that gives me happiness and joy to the fullest. A happy family and a happy home are all I want.
This is my response to the HIVE LEARNERS weekly prompt in hive learners community for the Week 144 Edition 1 and the topic to be discussed is A KIND OF FAMILY
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