I believe there is no perfect being anywhere. We all have our strength and weaknesses. An habit that could be strength to one person, could be a weakness for another, based on the circumstances surrounding them. We are all trying to work towards perfection but hardly reach the point.
I'm a lot of things and I have a lot of weakness as well but I have this major challenges that has been a weakness to my personal growth journey and it has also affected my relationship with others. I have identified this before now and I've already started making plans on how to curb if not permanently stopping it. I understand the fact that it won't go away immediately but I'm already making effort.
Maybe based on my background or experiences, I tend to argue a lot these days. I only just had time to think thoroughly about it and I realized that it's getting too much. Some think I'm always trying to prove a point or I want to be right all the time but this is not true. I don't even argue blindly and I never want to be always right I just want you to look at it from another angle.
There was a time a colleague said something that really hurt me just because I shared my experience about a ditch she was about to fall into. A step that I took that affected me was the same step she was about to take. I warned her about it but rather she politely insulted me. I thought it was best to learn from other people's mistakes so that we won't make the same.
Since then, I told myself that I needed to do better and I started working on it. It has not been easy but I'm putting my mind to it and I'm already happy with some of the progress I've made. Just last week, someone was discussing with me about the present government telling me why it's the best we have had in Nigeria and I just told him that he was right and I plugged my ears. Normally, I won't accept that, I would argue with my own points before walking out but I didn't say a word.
I was so happy that I could control myself and not say anything. A similar scenario happened few days ago while traveling. The driver is someone I know and anytime I'm traveling in his car we usually discuss. So, on our way I didn't say anything or contribute to any of his talks. Then, in his discussion with another passenger, he made a comment that Adam and Eve were hungry in the Garden of Eden. I didn't want to argue so I asked him if that was written in the Bible or taught by theologians. He couldn't give me an answer so I just kept quiet.
I've been really proud of myself with the little progress and I hope to continue to work on myself. I've discovered that some people don't want to unlearn and I won't prove anything to anyone. I have better things to do with my time.
This is my response to Hive learners community weekly featured contents on the topic; A Weak Point
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