Do you know how hard it can be for some people to recommend or refer their friends for business or opportunities? They can come across something that’s not for them, but they know a person or two who such a thing will favor. Then, instead of recommending their friends, they simply keep quiet and allow it to go to someone else. They know their friend is capable, they just choose not to let them know.
Do you have such a person in your life? Yeah, I believe we all do.
Sadly though, this is not a crime so there’s nothing we can do about it. You’re not mandated by law to share opportunities, so if you choose to keep them to yourself no one will come to your house to arrest you.
But this is a terrible way to live. It just shows that we’re not interested in the growth and well-being of the people around us. We know very well that that little recommendation would go a long way in helping them grow, but we choose to keep it to ourselves.
Could it be that we really don’t want their growth at all? Or at the very least, we don’t want them to become bigger than us. Because this is a fear a lot of people have. Instead of working to become bigger than everyone, they try to keep everyone else smaller. This is a messed up mentality because it just keeps everyone stagnant, there’ll be no growth at all and nothing but bad blood will be brewing.
It’s particularly sad though when such people also grow by getting recommendations from others. The very thing they used to ascend the ladder, they keep it from others as well. It’s just like taking the ladder with you when you get to the top so no one else can join you. You’ll be surprised at how many people are like this. They act all friendly and nice, but within them, they don’t want anyone else to prosper.
If by some chance a friend of theirs decides to try something new, they’ll be the first to discourage them and tell them all the reasons such a thing won’t work. They’ll slide in like the voice of reason and pour their poison into your ears until you become so demotivated that you quit the idea altogether. I personally know someone like that.
This is why we have to be careful of the friends we keep. Just because everyone smiles at us doesn’t necessarily mean they are happy about us. People hide behind smiles all the time to hide the ugliness buried within them, as a result, we must never let down our guard. Always know that no one will ever love us more than we love ourselves, and in the end, when it comes to the basest levels of man, everyone will only act in their best interests. That’s what’s natural.
Thankfully though, not everyone is like that. There are great people in the world who seem to carry the business of others on their heads. They seem to be the ones always coming across opportunities and linking their friends up. They know very well that if everyone is growing at the same time, there’ll be little reason for enmity among them.
Such friends are gems and whatever they tell you is genuine. Make sure you hold on to them!
You might not get another.
