A child's future is more about his mindset and the parents' upbringing only has a little effect on his life...
We have seen orphans become great people in life so have we seen children with single parenting turning out well and doing good, and we have heard cases where a child whose parents have a good social standing turned out to be worst in life, I am never going to put a blame on the parent, all the blame goes to the child.
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A man gave birth to two children, one grew up hating alcohol while the second one grew up to be a drunkard, when they were asked why their life turned out that way, the one that disliked alcohol said he hated the way his father was a drunkard and how he embarrass himself whenever he got drunk and that made him vow never to have anything to do with alcohol in his life while the other one who became a drunkard said he picked the habit from his father.
That was 2 children from the same father but with different mindsets... So no matter the teachings and upbringing, a child will become what he chose to be.
I grew up with love from both parents, but still, I won't say I was proud of my early teenage years, I did not take life that seriously, I just wanted to play, I used to gamble a lot and my mum tried her best to change me, there are days she would come searching for me with a cane and other days she would wait for me at home to discipline me but that still did not stop me from going out to engage in stuff.
There was a time I sneaked out of the house to attend a night party but I did not like the smell of smoke, it made me feel so uncomfortable nor did I like noise, so that automatically disqualified me from such a lifestyle, I could not stay long there before I sneaked back into the house. I was not feeling the party so I ruled that out, but imagine If I happened to love it, I could easily get addicted to such a lifestyle too... Will you still blame the parent for that?
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My mum's iron fist could not change my mindset, a few years later, I visited my cousin, and the things I saw at her place and 15 minutes of words of encouragement changed my mindset, it made me ponder about the life I am living and if it is going to take me anywhere and If I can achieve the things she talked to me about... So I set my mind to purpose and the two things I did were letting go of my peers who were bad influences, secondly changing the environment to start life afresh, and leaving the past behind really helped me.
If my cousin was not successful in changing my mindset, I probably do not know what I would become now.
A parent's absence does not change what a child will become, even though things might be rough because no love can be compared with the love of a parent, and no one can treat a child better than those who give birth to him but still a child without parent love or single parent can become someone great if he or she mindset is a good one.
Some children are a time bomb waiting to explode, a good example is how some children turn out to become something else when they gain admission into the school and are now far away from their parents, they start to live a wild life which their parent knows nothing about while some still remain the good and decent child they are, our parents will try their best but our future lies in our mindset.
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