Hi guys welcome to my blog this is in response to the hive learners weekly featured content week 126 looking at this topic I remember two scenarios which I am going to be sharing on this post
People are not tools to be used in order to achieve ones personal goals and aspirations but people are meant to be related with in order for growth to occur. When a person gives you an audience in their life and personal space it is important to note that the favour has to be returned for a synbiosis so the relationship doesn't end up been parasitic
I got into the federal university of agriculture Abeokuta as a direct entry student which meant starting from 200level when I got in to school I berly knew my departmental mates apart from my hoc (head of class) who helped me during my departmental clearance a little bond was formed but it just stayed mutual and since majority of the courses we did during our 200level days were virtual.
I didn't really have the privilege of knowing many of my departmental mates but after our first semester exams and we resumed second semester and we started having a few physical classes and this lead to me meeting some of my colleagues in the department
on a particular day we got talking about our last performance in the first semester exams and I discovered that alot of people had reading clusters within them selves prior to this I already meet a guy In my department whome we stayed in the same area and we got talking about this and then he discussed with some other persons in other departments whome are members of his fellowship so we got together and started reading together for our tests and examination since we were still offering majority of our courses together.,
we created a what'sapp group where we shared pdfs notes and past questions and then at the beginning of the test and exams we scheduled time to meet physically in school study together and pray for our exams all this activities made us very close and I became more closer to this guy since we went home together sometime we would walk back from classes and just engage in random discussions that got us to know our selfs better then at the end of the section when he was about going home he asked if I had a roommate?
I told him no and then he said he would like to stay at my place for like two weeks in the new semester I agreed without letting my parents know about the whole arrangement since he said his hostel was paid on a sectional based payment and not yearly payment like my own hostel at the resumption of the new semester he came in straight to my place I welcome him with arms wild open and he assured me he just needed two weeks to find a new place and move but two weeks turned in to more weeks and then a month and it went on
the issue wasn't that he stayed at my place but the fact that after a few weeks I noticed his character changed he would make food for him self alone using my gas cooker which I filled then, he never assisted with the house chores the most annoying part was after a while when he brought food stuffs after mine had finished he would make food for him self alone and for the time been i ate at a friends place who knew I wasnt financially strong at the moment and because i didnt want to like a bad person
I never talked to him about it with the mind set that as an adult he should know what to and not to do . And slowly this started to take a turn on my mental health I had to call my parents and told them what was going on and their intervention was simply to ask the young man when he was leaving and as it turned out he didn't even have any plans of leaving anymore cause he was no longer looking for a place he then called his parents who called me to ask if their son had done something wrong.
I had to tell them that my parents found out I was having someone stay with me and they weren't happy about it and that was how later left after finding another place.
The second experience was my first love., we meet at her church where I was teaching some persons how to play the drum set she initiated the friendship and we had a lot of things in common getting to know her this was a few years after my seconary school education.
we were so in love that our siblings knew them selves cause of us the only people who weren't aware of our relationship at the time was our parents evening though sometimes I would visit her in their family house when her mum was was around she didn't suspect anything cause here younger brother was one of my students whome I was teaching how to play the drum set.
our relationship blossomed to the extent one of her friends from secondary school called me to ask if i had plans of taking her friend to the alter i said yes with so much condidence at the time she later told me she was asking because her friend suffered a heart break 💔 after school cause the guy she was dating got admission into school found another girl and served her breakfast 😂 I gave her a reassurance that t I wasn't that guy and we continued our relationship until she gained admission into the university after she got into school we still found a way to talk every day on 2go and Eskimo
but after a while she stoped replying my messages and when I asked she would give excuses like she was charging her phone and other flimsy excuses I confided in my younger sister how told me to take my mind off her if I didn't wanna suffer a heartbreak
it was hard but I finally started taking my mind off her although I still kept in touch I found out she would give an excuse to always end our conversations both online and when I called and then on this faithfully day I called her while she was in the midst of her room mates and all the talks I heard from the background made me sob 😔 cause her friends made mockery of me over the phone cause i wasnt in school yet and after a while of our talking she just told me she was no longer intereested in our relationship
I felt relieved cause I didn't want to be the one who called the shot I waited till she was bold enough to call the shot and for me this ment some freedom cause I was already tired of the character she was putting up at the time especially because my sister had told me a little secret about her gender that when they were no longer interested the would always give an attitude and this was how she broke up with me and we went our separate ways
I have learnt that in life season come and go and for every season to here are people who are needed so I do not regret having any of these people in my life cause while what we had lasted we grew together but we only grew apart cause everyone has a part in life
Thankyou for reading 💙
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