Why is it so hard to say sorry when it doesn't take anything away from you?
This is a question I have had to ask some people around me, due to their ego or nonchalant attitude to admit that they are sorry even when they are in the wrong. I'm Sorry should not be a difficult word to confess to someone, because it shows you respect and care for the other person's feelings. Like I always say, admitting you are sorry doesn't make you less of a human, rather it shows you are mature enough to take responsibility for your action and the benefits outweigh when you hold on to your ego.
Benefits of saying I'm Sorry
1 it helps both parties heal from hurt and anger
When you hurt someone, you feel troubled if you don't apologize, so saying sorry brings calm and peace to your heart instead of holding onto your ego and anger, just say the simple magical word and you will see the anger fizzling away.
2 It shows you are courageous
Truth be told, it isn't easy to admit you are sorry, you feel vulnerable, but taking the bold step to admitting your wrongdoing means you have the courage and you also care for the other person's feelings.
3 it brings about trust
If you can't admit you are wrong in little things, you can't be trusted in bigger ones, and when you hurt someone, they find it very hard to trust you again because you've hurt their feelings before and didn't care about apologizing.
For me, I admit I'm sorry easily just like the way I forgive easily, but not when I'm not guilty, I find it hard to say sorry for something I am not guilty of, because I feel the other person is trying to gaslight me into taking blames for their action, I will rather prefer you communicate with me and make me understand how I have wronged you, instead of demanding an apology when I haven't seen my fault. When I truly know I'm guilty, I apologize immediately and sincerely too.
In my home, my spouse finds it very hard to say sorry even when I have complained a lot, his sorry is always put into action than voicing out, he will rather help with house chores, buy me things I didn't ask for, and show more care than needed, that I begin to wonder if this type of apology should be termed normal and accepted, although, I would still prefer he says it with his mouth than taking actions.
There was a time he hurt my feeling by deciding on something without informing me first, which made us lose a huge amount of money, I became aware after the did have been done, and he still wanted to use his normal action way of feeling sorry, I stood my ground of him apologizing by voicing it out to show he truly cared about how I felt, when he saw that I was not bulging, he had no other choice than to admit it and has been learning gradually to say the magic word because our kids need to learn this act from us.
A simple I AM SORRY softens even the strongest of heart, learn to say sorry when it's needed, don't stay long to admit you are sorry because it might be too late also be sincere when apologizing, don't act as if you are forced to.
This post is an entry to the hive learners contest, week 53, edition 3.
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